What are you struggling with lately?

 Jordan Bates (@bashfulkoala)5 years, 1 month ago

Hey all,

Just curious what people are struggling with lately. I can’t be too specific, but I’m somewhat struggling with the fact that certain loved ones judge my life choices. Also struggle with the process of embracing falling in love again, while still being in love with my last partner.

Any random words about either of these situations would be appreciated, but I’m also just curious what you all are going through. Will offer whatever I can. It can be helpful to just vent though. What’s up with you?

Peace / Love,
jb

May 11, 2016 at 5:15 am
batispedro (0) (@batispedro) 5 years ago ago

lets that about it, but we need some music background. listen my “the high list”, the name says everything

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Pach (0) (@Pach) 5 years ago ago

People often reject what they can’t understand, if you know in your heart what your doing is for your benefit you have to trust that. They’ll understand in the end and if they don’t you won’t live with the regret of surprising your own wants and needs. Also I’ve recently opened my third eye and am having trouble with the excess energy I feel now. Any advise or tips would be appreciated. It’s ok to love your last partner maybe it ended and you still had feelings but if it’s over it’s over. You can’t let yourself stay stagnant, you have to move on to continue your growth. Even though you may still love that person it’s ok to move on. Timing is everything

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Eles (0) (@Eles-Dyzer) 5 years ago ago

I realized recently that I am a total internet/screen addict. It helps me with my loneliness and my current inability to have project in my life. It’s terrifying to confront the emptiness when I switch the computer off ….

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faroutman (0) (@dromaine) 5 years ago ago

Im struggling with myself. I want to make a big change in my life, but i cant think of how to get it or started or how to discipline myself to go along with these new plans. any advice?

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Gera (0) (@gbt92) 5 years ago ago

Go easy and slow on falling in love again. Maybe you are not going to feel it right away but with time and patience you will fall in love again. Give your new partner a chance. 

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Ritu (0) (@Ritu-Agarwal-A-Positive) 5 years ago ago

Hi JB,

Don’t feel let down if your loved ones are not able to understand your choices. Just keep doing what you love. It might sound quite cliched but thats the best way to go about it.

On falling in love again, try to love yourself completely before you fall for someone else. I am trying to do the same. When you are happy in your own skin only then can one let go of the past and prepare for the future. 

But for now, just be in the moment. 

Cheers!

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Kyljys (0) (@Kyljys) 5 years ago ago

Unfinished love, a confession that has been long awaited. Afraid that I might be too late. Someone knows how I feel, but I have been unable to show it truly.

I’m hopeful, but since I don’t know how she thinks or feels, I’m trembling over the fact that maybe she wants to reconcile – or maybe she just wants to forget. And I can’t think about anything else, since this ”confession” has been building up over a year – over several years, if you count the time I still hung out with her.

I lived inside a shell, which I broke out of. Took me a year of solitude and living away from everything I know. And now there’s only one thing standing between my release and I, and that’s my first and only love, which I never got an answer to.

I’m scared, but hopeful.

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Shawn Broom (0) (@Shawn-Michael) 5 years ago ago

I lost the woman I love recently. We’d had problems but I was trying to address them. I thought we could fix things but evidently she did not. She was the first person I’d ever seriously considered marrying. My heart is broken. It’s hard to accept that this path I saw our lives taking is never going to happen. Plus we currently live together (In a city where I have no one and she has many friends and family). It’s hard to watch her life go on a flourish while I’m spinning my wheels. I’m moving back to my home town soon and in with my parents due to debt. I’m 28 and feel like such a failure. Like im a child who can’t figure out how to live an adult life. Plus I’m terrified that I’ll never leave my home town again. I’ve left twice and both times had to come back. Again… failure.

I’m trying to find positivity. Having some great friends to return to helps and I’m committed to making positive changes in my life because of this situation. 

I wish I had some advice for you. All I can say is hang in there. Accept your feelings, embrace them and try to live in the moment. Change is hard. Positive or negative. You’re strong. You deserve positivity. Good luck

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Today, Our house sold – which gives us as renters 45 days to evacuate. This wouldn’t normally be so stressful if the housing market wasn’t in such a frenzy, we are attending mass viewings with ltitle or no response. We could be separated as a family unit which is sad.

I had another job interview to fit around study, a bachelor degree. I hope someone will spot my potential. 

Meds. Sleepless nights. Chronic loneliness. But life also at the moment has this real sense of balance inside the chaos. Like the days run together smoothly. Well rounded. Much less high and low. Just another day. 

I also travel internationally first time next month. 

Have a lot going on. Sometimes I feel like I can’t breathe. 

But everything will pass. We’re just monkeys floating around on a giant rock through the infinite cosmos. Whatever will be will be ??


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Mihai (0) (@Mihai-Maxim) 5 years ago ago

Hello high existance,can you give me some advice for struggling with brain fog/chronic fatigue?

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Adamous92 (3) (@Adamous92) 5 years ago ago

I get made fun of my lifestyle every single day (being vegan, eating fruits and vegetables, don’t drive, ride my bike everywhere and doing theatre). I struggle getting out of bed after I wake up. I struggle with my emotions when I try to meet new people.I struggle telling people how I feel. I struggle showing my true self to my family. I struggle talking to people who I perceive to be better than I am. I struggle with attention, I just don’t know where to focus sometimes. I struggle with my mind, telling me I’m never good enough. I just struggle man. I struggling is a big part of life. Wort every single ounce of my energy though. Makes me feel so alive and struck so much in me that I deliberately make myself struggle so that when I go through it, I know I will be stronger than before. 

And can’t complain too. I have it easy. 

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Adriana (0) (@elmina) 5 years ago ago

Hello everyone,

I’m dealing with hard decision-making…this year I had to take a lot of hard decisions involving my career and my relationships. I’ve given up some things and people that were harming me, but the healing process is just starting. Also I’ve been doubting a lot about my relationship with my current partner and I’ve been trying to figure out if it’s not the best for both of us to move on and end our romantic relationship. Unfortunately our communication is not very strong and we hardly discuss about our future…so, somehow I feel that I’m struggling alone to get to some answers in a relationship that is supposed to be about two people.

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David Lynch (1) (@LynchGraphics) 5 years ago ago

jb, I was a facilitator for a few years at a personal growth workshop that was held one weekend each month. They were very intense. People processed through the gamut of human emotion during the course of each weekend. People experienced many breakthroughs and insights.

One of the most common was when a member of a couple realized that left-over feelings and attachments from a previous relationship were keeping that person from fulling being in his/her current relationship.

You may find yourself holding back with your new love interest because you have not yet fully let go of your previous partner. We each have a finite amount of energy to give to the people in our lives each day. Energy devoted to someone from our past, even in thought, can diminish what we have to give to the people who are in our lives today.

No judgements here – relationships are a process. But I thought I’d mention this dynamic so you could be aware of it.

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Ellen (0) (@Ellen-Baer) 5 years ago ago

I struggle with standing up to people when they make me feel guilty because I having a different opinion.

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Will (27) (@TheBigElectron) 5 years ago ago

I’m in existential crisis. :P

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Jesse (0) (@Jesse-McHugh) 5 years ago ago

I am struggling with a picture I found on an old SD card that was in my wife’s phone which appears to be my wife engaged in a three way with two other men. I was addicted to drugs and killing myself very fast when a little over a year ago I had a mushroom trip which I went into with the intention of breaking my bad habits and I have not had the desire to use any of the other drugs I was using ever since the sacred mushrooms literally saved my life so me and my wife both took our first heroic dose of 5 grams dried psilocybin and my intention was to figure out how I should handle the situation with this picture which I would say is 99.9% definitive but my wife denies that anything happened and it is really really shaking up my life but I didn’t really receive any feedback during my trip so I am just wondering if anyone has any advice on how I can utilize my plant allies in this psychological battle I’m fighting.. 

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PhD (0) (@philthebill) 5 years ago ago

Hello guys.

I am a musician from another country, now in Los Angeles.I gave up everything almost 3 years ago and relocated 9 months ago.I struggle everyday doing a job i don’t want to, going after other jobs i wouldn’t like to do, not playing music , being far far away from my family and loved ones.I am trying to accept the situation, stay calm, but each morning that I awake I find myself saying “What the fuck am I doing?”.This is my struggle.I don’t know if it worths it but I am too afraid to stand back, or quit cause this(music) has been in my mind for a long time now.I feel isolated and astranged.The one thing that I thought that was gonna give me everything is actually taking everything from me.

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Rachel (0) (@rahhcel) 5 years ago ago

Hi, 

I was going through the same thing- trying to embrace new love while still holding onto an old one. I spent a lot of time comparing the two, not purposefully, and obsessing over the old love. I think what’s important to keep in mind is this idea of spreading as much love anywhere you can, and embracing the hurt that comes with the loss of a relationship as a bittersweet pain that reminds you how good love can feel. 

I’m still struggling with the loss of my first love. I used up a lot of the self love I had saved for myself on him, and I’m finding myself very insecure and not in love with me anymore. I’ve been having suicidal idealogies and suffering from horrible anxiety attacks and feeling empty emotionally and mentally drained. I consiously don’t want to die, but there’s this voice in my head that shouts its opinion before I can stop it. I know I won’t do anything, I couldn’t hurt my family like that. But it would be really nice to not feel this empty. 

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TaraMilner (0) (@Tara123) 5 years ago ago

I’m currently stuggling with a couple things. Firstly i find myself always thinking negitivly about a lot of things, and after school i will just come home and usally cry. SEcondly, i hate my body..ive natually always been really skinny…im 16 years of age and i am only 48 kilos. i think i am too skinny so i am always eating food. im vegan and i cant seem to gain weight. last thing is i am lazy, and i give up really easly on things. pls send some help x any advise will do 

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k.leanne (0) (@k.leanne) 5 years ago ago

Sorry if I’m getting too pessimistic here, but I am struggling with a fear of the unexpectency of death. I am only young but the anxieties I have of me dying suddenly is somewhat preventing me from looking at the future in a wholeheartedly optimistic way, and I really hate it. Apologies for this being so negative but I’m trying to learn how to deal with it. Any thoughts?

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DanYell (6) (@maestradaniela) 5 years ago ago

I care too much about what other people think.

I don’t express myself for fear of hurting some one’s feelings, not finding the right words or sounding stupid.

I want to travel this summer but my fiance’ has travel anxiety and doesn’t want therapy 

My parents are judgmental Christians who won’t be attending my gay sister’s wedding next month :(

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Bs99boy (2) (@Bs99boy) 5 years ago ago

Much love, you inspired me 

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Bs99boy (2) (@Bs99boy) 5 years ago ago

Isolate yourself, and meditate. Make peace with yourself and don’t be afraid of what life throws at you. I can’t comprehend what your going through but I know that’s how I defeated my anxiety. I used to get anxiety attacks a lot 

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Beverly Johnson (48) (@lovydovybevy) 5 years ago ago

Hey Netta. I’m in the same boat as you. I’m 23, living at home with my parents, trying hard not to judge myself with where I am right now. I’ve been thinking about this a lot, about being an adult and trying to figure out how to do this “adult” thing that seems super daunting and extremely high-pressure. If you love the outdoors, take the first step to go outside, it’ll help a lot I promise. You’ll feel so much better just by taking the first step. And fuck those people who want you to go to school. Do you want to go? If that’s not it for you right now, then don’t do it. Do what makes you feel alive and well and like you’re living a life true to your own wants, desires, and aspirations. I believe in you, girl. -Bev

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jujee (6) (@jujee) 5 years ago ago

Don’t  give up and stay strong…education is never wasted.

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