What are you struggling with lately?

 Jordan Bates (@bashfulkoala)5 years, 2 months ago

Hey all,

Just curious what people are struggling with lately. I can’t be too specific, but I’m somewhat struggling with the fact that certain loved ones judge my life choices. Also struggle with the process of embracing falling in love again, while still being in love with my last partner.

Any random words about either of these situations would be appreciated, but I’m also just curious what you all are going through. Will offer whatever I can. It can be helpful to just vent though. What’s up with you?

Peace / Love,
jb

May 11, 2016 at 5:15 am
Rachel (0) (@Rachel27) 5 years, 1 month ago ago

Thanks fo asking jb. Im also scared of loved ones judging my life choices… But you gotta try and disconnect yourself from sociatal pressures and caring what other people think of you, because it’s your life, your body, your soul, your happiness. 

I’m struggling with a choice between a postgrad in the city where my friends/boyfriend/band is, or moving back home and planning a gap year trip by myself… I think I know what I need, but am scared to make the change…

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VanessaLauren (0) (@VanessaLauren) 5 years, 1 month ago ago

Hi JB,

Currently, I’m struggling with following my dreams rather than being stuck in a job that I know I’m not supposed to be doing. It’s easy to get up and go, which I’m ready to do, but I have a family to think about also. I guess I’m just waiting for things to happen…the right moment. Also, I can relate to what you said about Love but don’t you think that it would be hard to fall in love if you’re already in love. Give yourself a minute to get over it, which WILL happen if it’s suppose to. The only thing that will happen if you don’t give it the time it deserves, is that you will find someone who will replace this person youre in love with, and then you will most likely break their heart. It’s like having a cut and then cutting yourself in another location with the hopes that it will take away the pain from the first cut. Just my opinion. Good luck! And as for people judging you…people only judge what they do not understand. Do whatever feels right because thats your truth. Nobody is in your heart or head… 

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Victor (0) (@Victor-Batres) 5 years, 1 month ago ago

Hey, JB.

While it may be easier said than done, you ultimately have to learn that the only one who is worthy of judging you is yourself. No one’s judgement can impact your life as much as your own judgement of yourself. Just something to chew on.

I am currently struggling with getting out of my comfort zone like how I used to. I’ve pushed myself into a bubble because of fear of disappointing myself.

Peace,

Victor

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Bornbronze (0) (@Bornbronze) 5 years, 1 month ago ago

I am struggling with moving on from a relationship. This guy who I was with for a little over a year decided that he wanted to be with someone who was more established in the career, made more money and was closer to being ready to having children. He is 7 years older than me and while he is very settled in his career I don’t think he thinks he can take me seriously. I am however working towards bettering my self, I’m getting my masters degree next spring and I’m am trying to learn new skills for to help in my career development.  So it’s not like I was just sitting around in this relatioionshil doing nothing.  I am working toward the same life goals he has.  So I really struggle with feeling inadequate and because I really loved him and I thought he loved me too.  

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Lucy (0) (@Lucy-Lora) 5 years, 1 month ago ago

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Michael_Neo (0) (@MichaelNeo) 5 years, 1 month ago ago

i’m struggling with choosing the university, i would like to do psychiatric but even surgeon so i can’t decide!

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Jimmybrady (0) (@Brady8) 5 years, 1 month ago ago

Lately, I have struggled with expressing my truth. I have finally gotten to a point where I want to be brave enough to express it. To that end I am struggling to express myself and just try to please myself with my self expression.

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Complex Realities (0) (@syedusman) 5 years, 1 month ago ago

I’m struggling with my sexuality. Really too much confused that sometimes I think of ending my life peacefully and end this struggle finally. I exist so does the struggle. Very difficult to hide onself and pretend to be someone else.

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Eski (0) (@Lycie) 5 years, 1 month ago ago

Although this may be the most worn out advice anyone can ever give – just know that you’re not alone. You can, and will, be able to find others that have experienced similar struggles to your own. I have faith you’ll learn to love yourself and embrace who you are. 

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Jacqueline (0) (@Jacqueline-Moncada) 5 years, 1 month ago ago

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Aubbaris (0) (@Glennje) 5 years, 1 month ago ago

Hi all,

I am a new member to the site and am already enjoying much of the content found here.  I am currently struggling with addiction.  Every morning I wake up angrier and more defeated than the last.  I’ve told myself I’d quit more times than I can count and I feel that I no longer believe it, nor think I am even capable anymore.  I have gone through withdrawl three times before and and am so mad at myself for putting me up against that again.  That’s just the start.  Once sober I really have no idea how to stay that way.  It’s the main reason I’ve caved and used.  As miserable as I am now, that is equally as scary.  I really don’t know what to do.

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Trippy JB (0) (@Jbthegodd) 5 years, 1 month ago ago

what are you addicted to

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Trippy JB (0) (@Jbthegodd) 5 years, 1 month ago ago

As a message to everyone responding to this thread (and the poster) with struggles; remember nothing last forever and everything will be fine. All you must do is go with the flow.

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honestly? (0) (@zero14) 5 years, 1 month ago ago

Hey JP, I’m struggling with finding a job. I studied my bachelor in Italy and I have just done my master in Scotland, both in Biomedical Engineering. Now I can’t find a job related to my studies and I am starting to think that the path that I’ve chosen is totally wrong, I fell like I’ve wasted my life already. Im back in Italy for the summer, I would love to move to Scotland again next september, I am also considering moving to Ireland but withouth an idea of a job I am not even sure what city I should move to. 

Btw, I understand how you feel: it’s been almost two years after me and my last girlfriend’s brake up, and it took me more than a year to fall out of love. I can only say one thing: it’s too early for you. Don’t force it, take your time.

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Eles (0) (@Eles-Dyzer) 5 years, 1 month ago ago

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Fernanda (1) (@solflotante) 5 years, 1 month ago ago

I struggle with myself, the way I feel about things and its intensity. It takes over me, I can feel the physical pain in my chest because somehow, even if I know a feeling can be irrational for most, it makes sense for me at the core. For example, my boyfriend and I have seen each other every week since we met, today is sunday and we haven’t seen each other since last saturday because he’s moving out of his apartment into a new one, as he lives far away because of university. Still he has managed to come every week by thursday or so. So I said that if we are not going to be able to see each other, you might as well not come at all and I’ll travel to the city by tuesday and I’ll stay in for a few days; it doesn’t make sense for me, just don’t come. As if everything was ruined so why bothering to come, right? My position is distant, a bit cold and a bit bitter but I don’t show it. I’m a serious normal person on the outside because I know it only makes sense in my head. Still I wanted to go on tuesday because I do miss him and I know my hurt feelings will eventually heal by seeing him, plus, my mom is going to the city so I had a ride to go. We (mainly he) thought that he would be able to come by 6pm today but he and his family had many delays so they’ll be in town at late hours. So, I still don’t change my mind. It’s a 4 hour trip by car, 6 hour trip by bus. In my head, it still doesn’t make sense him coming. I won’t be able to see him today, I’m not really caring if I see him tomorrow and on tuesday we are travelling together with my parents to the city so there’s that. Many of you reading this may not understand but even if I know the sacrifice he does for me the feeling won’t go away… unless I see him. Which I’m not able to……. so……..

I know it’s unhealthy, mostly for me. It’s something i’ve experienced my whole life. It has been creeping at times in my current relationship. Gladly, my boyfriend somehow puts up with my madness and it’s very patient and gentle while I try and just change that frustrated part about me. I really don’t know what’s wrong with me sometimes.

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Göran (0) (@Bernt) 5 years, 1 month ago ago

I think that the De Broogle matterwaves and David Bohms pilotwaves are waves in the Higgs field and it is the Higgs field that tells the matter particles how they have to move in a gravitational field and in the double-slit experiment. (electrons get their mass after the slits according to the interference in Higgs waves)

For example in QED calculations and in the double-slit experiment it is not the electrons that are taking all the possible paths , it is only the waves in the Higgs field that travels all the paths.

That means that Niels Bohrs principle of complementarity where a particle is both a particle and a wave at the same time is not needed any longer. Higgs field gives electrons their mass and the waves in the Higgs field tell them how to moove.

  At the same time we can notice that we dont need Einsteins 4:th room-time dimension any longer , because it is only a mathematical construction. The real physical reality are waves and structures  in the Higgs field”

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Laurent P (0) (@laurentpn) 5 years, 1 month ago ago

Hi, I’m struggling with pornography addiction. I’ve been trying to quit for 2 years now and I’m tired it being part of my daily life. I want to be free, to be manly, to have faith, hope, joy, energy. Getting through this demands an amount of willpower I’ve never had to gather before. It dumbs me down, makes me physically distant from other people around me, blind to the colors and deaf to the sounds of birds and the wind blowing through the leafy trees. I don’t know how to get through this as there are no official help for this kind of addiction. All I can do is be strong.

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jujee (6) (@jujee) 5 years, 1 month ago ago

Good luck and all the best!

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jujee (6) (@jujee) 5 years, 1 month ago ago

Sounds like you dodged a bullet there! Violence is NEVER ok in relationship. Jealousy is not good either. Yikes. Move on without her!

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VanessaLauren (0) (@VanessaLauren) 5 years, 1 month ago ago

You are never too old. The day you die will be the day you are too old to do anything, and even then, you will still have minutes/hours, to make choices. If you aren’t feeling peace, I would take that as the perfect sign to go.

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manusolorio (0) (@Manusolorio) 5 years, 1 month ago ago

My recommendation is: Don’t do anything, you don’t really want to do, just to impress her. If the girl you like thinks you’re a loser,  maybe she’s not the right girl for you dude. 

Hope you find a solution for your money situation. 

Keep your chin up!!

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Timid Young Rabbit (1) (@Timidyoungrabbit) 5 years, 1 month ago ago

Thanks for replying. Since this post a few things have changed for me such as, I finally found someone who I can talk to about a lot of my personal feelings. She helped me to see that I have a lot more natural happyness inside of me then I originally thought. It made me realize that a lot of the self doubt and sorrow I feel is mostly in my own head. I have a lot of obstacles to counqour still because the feelings always come back, mostly when i’m alone, and with this I find myself being around people all the time. I hope to learn to love myself and be okay with being alone. I hope you find passion in your life and in the actions you make on a day to day basis and that with time you and I both can find solace in our own. 

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Jordan Bates (4,684)A (@bashfulkoala) 5 years, 1 month ago ago

<3 <3 <3

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Gabriella (0) (@Gfunkali) 5 years, 1 month ago ago

I feel the same

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