What are you struggling with lately?

 Jordan Bates (@bashfulkoala)5 years, 2 months ago

Hey all,

Just curious what people are struggling with lately. I can’t be too specific, but I’m somewhat struggling with the fact that certain loved ones judge my life choices. Also struggle with the process of embracing falling in love again, while still being in love with my last partner.

Any random words about either of these situations would be appreciated, but I’m also just curious what you all are going through. Will offer whatever I can. It can be helpful to just vent though. What’s up with you?

Peace / Love,
jb

May 11, 2016 at 5:15 am
SquidyCoo (1) (@SquidyCoo) 5 years, 1 month ago ago

I just had to put my dog to sleep. 14 years by my side

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Eski (0) (@Lycie) 5 years, 1 month ago ago

My boyfriend is struggling with depression and drug addiction. He’s lost his job because of this and has been unemployed for 4 months.
And now I’ve just found out that my contract is not being renewed due to an organisational restructure. I have 1 week left.
I also suffer from anxiety and depression. Finding another job will be really difficult for me. I was with that place for 7 years.

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Chris (0) (@glasgowsmile) 5 years, 1 month ago ago

I’m struggling with feelings of jealousy, at least, that’s my best guess.

I recently moved to another state with my girlfriend because of a job offer she got. She made friends with her co-workers pretty quicky and now goes out 1 or 2 times each week at midnight to get drinks with them.

I don’t know if this is more about suspicion or more about my lack of interaction with other people as I know no one in the area and I work from home. I think I’ll feel better when we ultimately move out of a hotel and can get back to a more normal lifestyle. 

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SquidyCoo (1) (@SquidyCoo) 5 years, 1 month ago ago

I just had to put my dog down. 14 years, she’s been with me half my life. She was the most consistent thing I knew and the best friend I’ve ever had. :(

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philg42 (5) (@philg42) 5 years, 1 month ago ago

You can still love someone, yet let them go- even out of your life altogether.

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Cory Gardner (4) (@Cory Gardner) 5 years, 1 month ago ago

Hey JB.  I’m wondering if you’ve cleared the previous relationship.  Is there any unsettled or neglected energy looming between you that is preventing you from moving on fully?

I’m struggling with remaining disciplined.  I am highly motivated but consistently find myself falling short of my ambitions.  Specifically, I have goals in areas of health, spirituality, and relationships that at times I’m failing to keep up consistent effort towards.  This causes internal conflict that is very troubling emotionally and makes starting back up very difficult.

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Jordann (0) (@jordannchristina) 5 years ago ago

Hi Jordan,

Currently struggling with the aftermath of ending a toxic relationship after being severely manipulated for 2+ years. Trying to figure out what is up and what is down again. The path back to self love and acceptance is going to be grueling, but I am hopeful!

As far as embracing new love, I believe the way in which we fall in love is different with every person. However, I would not rush it if you are not ready! I know it sounds cliche, but give it time, and get to know what you want while going through it.  

In my opinion, loved ones always judge us in one way or another. It can be hard when we truly value their opinons of us. Talking about it with them (if thats an option) is always a good idea, perhaps with a third party involved (therapist/counselor). That is, of course, if its straining a relationship. Therapists do a great job at showing each person an unbiased approach to these kinds of issues.  I’m in the field! Hope all turns out well smiley

Jordann P.

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Shradha (0) (@Shradha-Chamoli) 5 years ago ago

i have been struggling with my career…m a dentist n i dont like dentistry anymore…my parents r mostly mad at me for this…i sunno wat to do…does any1 know of any btr carreeer options having a dental degreee…:( ..i need a jobbbbbbbbbbbbbb

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Nadja (0) (@Nadjadristig) 5 years ago ago

Hi Jb! 

Sad to hear that some of your loved ones are judging your choices in life. Me myself have close family members whose opinions are very different from mine, so i think that maybe i can relate in some ways. I think the most important thing to remember is that this is your life, and yours only. And the only one who needs to be happy with the decisions you make is you.

Personally i struggle with my eating disorder, once again. I was declared healthy two years ago but it has started to come back again. I think it has started to come back because of a general anxiety i have had under the last few months. I dont know, i think i start losing myself again and i don’t really know how to find my way back.

Hugs,

Nadja

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Di (0) (@Di-MT) 5 years ago ago

I’ll give it a go, even though mine is as old as my conscious years. I am unable to choose my path in life, unable to become determined in a direction which has to do a lot with my seeing more and more how clear the hamsterwheel spins no matter what I’m choosing. I’m struggling with finding a way to do the most impact in the world, for the better. I’ve finished a cultural counselling degree thinking that I’m going to learn how to treat the mentally ill. Instead it showed me how much the real illness lies in society, and how unable would my training be to heal certain wounds. Now I’m stuck. Three ways lay out. Mental health, International Law, Medicine. I’m stuck and cannot decide. Also, since I’m not a Rothschild the money issue starts to hurt :p

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gloveman (0) (@gloveman) 5 years ago ago

I must be the oldest person on this thread. I am 69 years old and struggling with weight gain. My brother and four male first cousins have Type II diabetes. So far I am normal, but live in terror of developing the disease.

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Jhanina Mhyrie (0) (@Jhaninaaa) 5 years ago ago

I can’t control my emotions.. Especially when I’m arguing with my boyfriend. I get this feeling of hurting myself just to get his attention.

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agv67903 (0) (@agv67903) 5 years ago ago

William . I can see what your saying… Raymond `s article is surprising, last week I bought a top of the range Acura from making $4608 this-past/month and-a little over, $10,000 this past month . with-out any question its the easiest work I’ve ever had . I began this five months/ago and almost straight away startad bringin in minimum $82 per-hr 
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Gordias (0) (@rashid.asgari) 5 years ago ago

I am very stressed out at work and what stresses me even more is the fear that my life would be ruined by this stress! I have just started to work at this great company for almost a year. I know the fact that in my line of work stress is an inevitable part of the job but i am beginnig to question whether i should leave everything and start something on my own with less stress and of course a not so bright future. indecision

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Brittany (0) (@Brittany-Freeman) 5 years ago ago

I’m struggling with feeling lonely and a little lost and unsure of my next step in life. I’m also struggling with self love and body image

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PlasticTaffy (0) (@Nuyek64) 5 years ago ago

It is hard to overcome lonelyness if you dont love yourself. After all you are the one you spend the most time with, in fact 100% of your time is spent with yourself.

Love yourself first Brittany.

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Hi JB, right now I am struggling with the idea of living life without finding love. I know it’s cheesy and very cliche, but I have only had one relationship (only lasted a year) which I would consider meaningful and I am 22 years old and most would consider me at least reasonably attractive in terms of appearance. I think that the more time that goes on without it happening, I am thinking more and more that there is something deeply wrong with me. I’ve even begun to question my sexuality at times. It a positive feedback loop between low self-esteem and lack of intimacy in my life.

I know this is all craziness of my mind, and I am trying to focus on being present and meditate more often. But it definitely gets the best of me at times…

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alkapwn3d (0) (@alkapwn3d) 5 years ago ago

Struggling to find a reason to get out of bed in the morning. I’m 29 and I’ve failed at practically everything. I’m out of ideas, I have no friends, no money, no confidence, massive debt, live with parents and every day is painful.

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MoreGong (1) (@bamybill) 5 years ago ago

I’m so sorry. It sounds like you’re exhausted because you’ve put forward all this money and effort trying to live an authentic life and be in a meaningful relationship, but every last idea has fallen through. Even if you knew of a clear path to take next, you’d be too tired and too cynical that it would work to even start down it. You’re so worn out that you’d like to just stay in bed all day. And why shouldn’t you? You sound like you’ve earned yourself a break at least. For one thing, you can’t conquer anything if you’re completely worn out, and for another, even if you could just snap your fingers and magically suddenly have friends and a job, you’d be too worn out to even devote any attention to them. Obviously this forum isn’t for advice, it’s more just for venting, but for my part, I hope you’re able to find the space to get the rest you clearly need.

I also see your second post and it makes me wonder, why do you think you need to be mysterious? Does you living with your parents put you in a difficult position where you feel like you have to hide who you authentically are just to have them help you meet basic needs? Or do you feel like in order to make friends you have to conceal who you really are and “manipulate them” into showing any morsel of interest? (If it’s the latter, I can definitely relate. In fact, I don’t think my parents would tolerate my lifestyle of choice either because I drink a glass of wine or beer every night with dinner and they’re anti-any alcohol in the house. So I can relate on that as well.) In any case, I hope you can find a way through the muck.

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alkapwn3d (0) (@alkapwn3d) 5 years ago ago

I dont understand why being mysterious is good. If if no one knows anything about me and I cant share anything about myself or my thoughts i just feel alone and like nobody understands me. Other than manipulating people to be curious about me, what is the benefit to me directly?

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joooo (0) (@jooo) 5 years ago ago

I’m struggling with procastination,the project that I had to start last year, is still pending.

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Brian Yatchak (2) (@Byatch213) 5 years ago ago

Im struggling with life  in general, im on an antidepressant and an antipsychotic that im not sure even work. I dont really feel like myself anymore, ive heard the kind of meds im on can numb you emotionally and im not sure if thats happened to me. I get high off and on. (i used to smoke really heavily, until i tried molly and developed really bad anxiety and a crazy sensitivity to weed, i think it was bad or i just took too much, im not sure. All i know is it hit me way harder than it hit the people i rolled with.) But hack to the point, i just dont feel like myself. I overthink constantly, i sleep way too much, and i feel like my friends dont like me anymore. I just feel like im growing farther away from everyone.  When i smoke it helps sometimes, the other times when it doesnt i get these nonstop epiphanies that really mess with me, it makes me unsure of what to think. But on the other hand they remind me of who i am and who i want to be, and it makes me remember stuff I’ve forgotten about, stuff thats important to me. Childhood memories, things i used to like, stuff like that. I just worry that ill develop psychoses again, which was the worst experience of my life. (It was caused by smoking way too much and taking adderall,  but what really fucked me up was the molly, i wouldve been fine if i hadnt taken it) i just feel kind of lost, i have a good job at the moment and im going to try and join the airforce. If i can get in with my mental health history, ill just have to wait and see. If not ill be starting my first year of college, but i just feel stuck. I dont feel like myself completely, i feel like im constantly wasting time even if im not, i just feel lost.

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Brian Yatchak (2) (@Byatch213) 5 years ago ago

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Brian Yatchak (2) (@Byatch213) 5 years ago ago

Im struggling with life  in general, im on an antidepressant and an antipsychotic that im not sure even work. I dont really feel like myself anymore, ive heard the kind of meds im on can numb you emotionally and im not sure if thats happened to me. I get high off and on. (i used to smoke really heavily, until i tried molly and developed really bad anxiety and a crazy sensitivity to weed, i think it was bad or i just took too much, im not sure. All i know is it hit me way harder than it hit the people i rolled with.) But hack to the point, i just dont feel like myself. I overthink constantly, i sleep way too much, and i feel like my friends dont like me anymore. I just feel like im growing farther away from everyone.  When i smoke it helps sometimes, the other times when it doesnt i get these nonstop epiphanies that really mess with me, it makes me unsure of what to think. But on the other hand they remind me of who i am and who i want to be, and it makes me remember stuff I’ve forgotten about, stuff thats important to me. Childhood memories, things i used to like, stuff like that. I just worry that ill develop psychoses again, which was the worst experience of my life. (It was caused by smoking way too much and taking adderall,  but what really fucked me up was the molly, i wouldve been fine if i hadnt taken it) i just feel kind of lost, i have a good job at the moment and im going to try and join the airforce. If i can get in with my mental health history, ill just have to wait and see. If not ill be starting my first year of college, but i just feel stuck. I dont feel like myself completely, i feel like im constantly wasting time even if im not, i just feel lost.

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Eski (0) (@Lycie) 5 years, 1 month ago ago

Although this may be the most worn out advice anyone can ever give – just know that you’re not alone. You can, and will, be able to find others that have experienced similar struggles to your own. I have faith you’ll learn to love yourself and embrace who you are. 

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