What do we tell the retarded, the insane, and the ugly?

Zane (@albinomongoose) 8 years, 7 months ago

People on High Existence are attempting to, well, live a HIGH existence. Threads are usually about improvement, being all you can be, thinking positive, breaking limits, etc. Usually the highest rated answers are the ones which express, in so many words, “Just do it” or “Your the only one stopping yourself”.

I really like the can-do attitude and no-bullshit advice people like Manimal bring to the site but…

what do we say to people who can’t take this advice, no matter how badly they want to?

“You can not be stronger than your strength, no matter how hard you try” – a quote I read somewhere, and the truth. Some people just can’t do certain things.

What do we tell the autistic dude who reads a thread about expanding one’s mind, when he can’t do much more than spit in his mom’s napkin and talk to himself. Or the girl who reads a thread about finding real, passionate love, when she has birth deformities which repulse every man who looks at her? Are they just out of luck, doomed to an inferior existence?

October 15, 2013 at 1:26 pm
Stfrancis (110) (@Stfrancis) 8 years, 7 months ago ago

@sandman, the first quote is from the original post, not my post. I also wasn’t applying those designating adjectives, I was using them as an example. People use the term ugly to describe someone, which I was saying isn’t even a meaningful statement let alone how people should be viewed. When using limited resources to make a judgement call about a fellow human like many of us do, we disregard so much of what makes us one and focus instead on what small features we can condemn in others to make ourselves feel better. What I was talking about was love, not pity, there is quite a difference. Pity is condescending and yes very “us and them”, but love is a recognition of our common humanity and seeing yourself in everyone else. Again I think you misunderstood my posts but thanks for your consideration.

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Sandy (115) (@sandman) 8 years, 7 months ago ago

@stfrancis, Oh, sorry. I thought the original post was yours. My mistake.

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S (102) (@tictacfanman) 8 years, 7 months ago ago

You think this guy made excuses?

Or this guy?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vI1K6x5CBEU

Third times a charm:

Fuck excuses.

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LVX (297) (@Vovinawol) 8 years, 7 months ago ago

What do we tell them? What can they tell us?

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TheSkaFish (962)M (@theskafish) 8 years, 7 months ago ago

@tictacfanman, strength, intellect, and business acumen are one thing – but, say, could a disabled person or simply an old person learn quickness, reaction time, and coordination? Enough to get to a competent level? Or is that a window of opportunity that shuts early and forever?

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Ray Butler (1,423)M (@trek79) 8 years, 7 months ago ago

@albinomongoose, I found that when I focus on helping others, teaching others, I fail most of all. When I approach every situation and every person with the intent to learn something for myself, that is when I succeed most, that is when I help others the most.

People tend to burn phenomenal amounts of their energy and potential on concern for the welfare of others, the thing is that the best way to help others is to be as strong as you possibly can be, and you do not become strong by pouring all your power out into the world, you become strong by pumping it all into your own engine.

Other people are their own responsibility, they can choose to grow and learn or they can wallow in their own filth, that is not your choice, that is theirs, what you can do is drive yourself and well, by which you set examples, you grow and others see you grow and are inspired. You can share insight, you can choose to accept it but otherwise acceptance by others of your insight is out of your hands.

It is cliché but accept yourself and your faults, do your best and stay true to your nature, regardless of how others may strike you or shun you. We all have faults, no need to be insecure about them and no need to get all judgemental about them, you do what you can and when you do that there is no place for guilt or insecurity, it is irrational to ask more than your honesty, you just learn on the go and evolve.

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Anonymous (2,654) (@) 8 years, 7 months ago ago
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Ray Butler (1,423)M (@trek79) 8 years, 7 months ago ago

@beyond, Nick is a legend here in Aus, he did the Kokoda trail and Kilimanjaro, he gives the middle finger to every challenge.

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