It seems to me that a lot of dilemmas we have are about the heart vs. the head. Our emotions tell us we want something, while our rational selves tell us it’s not possible. Or maybe we have multiple emotions competing for attention. Or maybe we have many thoughts telling us about all the possibilities, so we end up paralyzed between a million different viewpoints. There are too many voices inside of ourselves, so we have trouble listening.
I think it is wise to get rid of the idea that some of these voices are more valuable than others.
They all have something to contribute. Your hopes for the future are important for guiding you. Your anxieties are important for telling you what feels challenging. Your rational mind is important for helping you devise a strategy. We need to look for a way to integrate these voices.
Back in college, I had a professor take our class on a guided meditation where we talked to our “parts”. We all imagined several parts of ourselves having a conversation. Some emotional parts, some strategic parts, some hurt parts, some confident parts. He asked us to take on the role of moderator between all the parts. Our job was to make sure that each part we encountered had a turn to speak.
It can be overwhelming to try to listen to every voice in your head. But if you take time out of your day to meditate on what parts are saying what, I think it’s possible to find more clarity about what the whole picture is.
Have you ever had an experience where you’re parts had a successful conversation, and worked as a team instead of against each other?
I like this, thank you for sharing.
I think it’s a misunderstanding that the heart is the seat of emotion and therefore in conflict with the head. The heart is the seat of love, which often transcends both thoughts and the sensations. I think that when helping all parts work together you can actually navigate from the heart center. So it’s the heart which speaks to all the parts and finds the harmony
You’re welcome Angelica!
I’ve been trying to be more in touch with my heart center recently, because it’s definetely the place we should guide ourselves from. I think it’s definetely the best place for setting our direction.
But can you talk more about what you mean by the heart being the center of love, and not emotion? What do you mean by love and emotion in this context? It seems like you mean love is something that transcends emotion, and not an emotion itself. I’d be interested to hear your view.
My logic comes from looking at it as a yoga student and teacher with a focus on chakras. The heart is what makes it possible to live in peace with so many seemingly contradictory realities, where the masculine and feminine energy meets in union. It is the center of balance and relationship. The other chakras hold all the pieces of our selves which may seem opposing but are actually all complementary pieces, such as being angry and also forgiving or being a free individual within the limits of space and time. The heart can seem to transcend emotion but it really makes space for all of it at once and usually if you can allow that it will point you in the direction of your most aligned path. The heart of a being is the center… If you allow sensations and ideas to run through it they won’t feel so disassociated from each other.
No fretting at all! I know exactly what you mean, and I really like your answer. At first I wanted to fret a little bit :P – that’s because I think all emotions have their place and calling the heart the center of love kinda diminishes the importance of other emotions.
BUT – it seems like by love, you mean the heart has the capability to compassionately digest all our emotions so they can integrate together. Then we can be more whole and have a more sure direction.
I notice that when I’m more in touch with my heart – usually after either a heart-opening yoga or meditation practice, but also sometimes when hiking/being in nature – i feel much lighter. Maybe this is because my emotions are being more thoroughly digested than they usually are. This is one of the big reasons I said I’m trying to live more in touch with my heart center – it feels so much better!
Thanks for the answer :)
Glad I sparked some interesting thoughts! I’d love to hear about what you might have found exploring things from this lens. It’s one lens of many when it comes to exploring ourselves, but I’ve found it pretty useful.
Your professor is very wise. I’ve been thinking about the different “parts” of myself a lot lately, and how they are all trying to mold me into who I am to become. But which do you think is the real you: the sum of all the voices speaking in harmony, or are you the observer/mediator trying to appease each voice?
Meditation is meant to quiet the chatter of the brain so we may listen to the quiet whisper of the heart. I strongly recommend following spirit science and their team. Or visit spiritscience.net. love and peace be with you. Namaste <3