What emphasis do you place on sex?
I like it a lot, as IMO people need it lol..
So what value do you place on sex?
People don’t need sex. The only thing sex is necessary for is procreation.
People just think they need it. Either because they rarely (or never) get any, or because they’re addicted.
When you’re happily fucked, you don’t care much for sex.
Sex itself is very overrated. Just killing time playing with genitals, releasing a bit of middle class tension. Lame.
Really great sex though, that’s amazing. But most people will never experience it.
I’m talking advanced tantric super energized hyper sex, the shit that blasts you out of your mind and body, the kind of fuck that makes people lose control or even pass out,
The kind of sex that leaves you with a lasting feeling of joy, peace, accomplishment and glory.
The kind that leaves you feeling energized rather than depleted.
Normal sex though, it’s a complete waste of time in my opinion. Unless you want offspring, that is.
People need sex. It’s common fact.
Condoms do suck but so do synthetic hormonal forms of birth control… I’d like to see women become more knowledgeable about their bodies to have the awareness of when ovulation is happening. OK I just decided that is my mission
The only people that practice it are the super dogmatic religious people.
The only ones? Of course not.
Yeah hormone manipulation is the worst, I can’t believe so many girls and women do that stuff.
You know, it’s probably easier to just check whether or not a guy has any sort of control over his willy. And diseases of course.
Personally, I greatly value sex.
But it’s important to include that I realize it’s the way my body’s wired.
I love sex. If I go longer than a week or so without it, I can feel a difference in my body.
While it is not a primary necessity in life (i.e water/food/shelter), it is recognized as a secondary need.
I think sex is important. It does connect people. It does make you feel “good”, to put it simply.
It helps people express themselves and explore their boundaries.
I know it sounds cliche but when it’s with the person you really love, it’s just so beautiful and raw. I think you need it too. The oxytocin hormones release and for a girl like me at least, it makes me attached to that person in a way that I am with nobody else. I love the man I’m with by who he is alone, but the sex just adds a cherry on top. Closeness on another level, he knows me in every way more than anyone in the world. However mindless sex with multiple people is sex that is wasted in my opinion. Not to say I haven’t done that, but now I know how much more I could enjoy it when it’s with someone worth my time and where the love is mutual.
I did put an extremely high value on it before i.e. I spent a lot of time meeting women. Although, after three and a half years of compensation for the lack of sex I had not have in my life, I decided to cut down on it. Which gave me time for other things, I learned a new language, moved out of my country, started new interests et cetera. I do still make love regularily, it does not however take up such a big space in my world anymore. I cannot deny the joy of it, I have neverthelss a hard time justifying it(and the rest of my action, I find some more justifiable than others.) and I get the feeling afterwards that I should spend my time doing something else. So this is the reason I have balanced it more in order to find a balance between my life and the life shared with others.
I think making love is an oppurtunity to get really close with someone and let the barriers go more easily for some. The value of mindless consuming and sometimes patriarchal sex that to my knowledge exists somehow in the western countries is not something that I find interesting. I do agree that to stranger having sex with eachother is a lot of fun and both can enjoy the act. I do not agree with the idea that someone is especially cool just because the person have a lot of sexual encounters and think that having the encounters are more important than sex in itself, so to say, treating people as simple means for consumption is not a thing(I cannot deny it has never happened or never will happen to me.) that I give my attraction to.
One thing that made me revalue the whole sex thing is also that I have not fallen in love(yes I am young). I do enjoy spending intimate moments with members of the opposite sex, being really close, connected and doing activities together.
Regarding my mood, I cannot say I find any difference whether I have had sex 10 times a week, not been having sex or an orgasm for more than a month or just having sex on a weekly basis. I find the mood more or less the same. I do not see it as a necessity. I believe that it is possible to live in harmony without having sex, I do not know if it is something that I will prefer and it is not how I wish to live at the moment. I think it is possible a priori.
Maybe someone could lighten me up about their experience with feelings as well. When spending a longer time with a member of the opposite sex, I do not get attached(I do not want to firstly) what surprises me, even if I am completely okay with the girls is that she can get attached to me and develop feelings I thought never could exist while me on the other rests in a way quite cold, even though I can express joy in a number of different ways and words. These opinions will probably change as they have done the lasts years, I do see a change that I enjoy.
I would prefer it to mean the closest you can get to a person holistically, but that openness usually has to be established. Sex is always physically healing though… unless you get an STD!
I would like to experience it with someone that I love and who turns me on, and very preferably while I am still young and healthy, the way it’s supposed to be. Kind of like, you’re supposed to learn how to tie your shoes and ride a bike and swim when you are little. Like there’s a time and place for everything, and I don’t want to miss out on it in what’s left of my 20s and 30s because that is probably the optimal time. I feel sex is SOMETHING, but of course not EVERYTHING.
still no one is not able to make out – what @manimal is talking of. we have all the same type of sex and biology and psycology discussed. well thats the way, matrix prevails. he he.
@manimal — u wont get people to talk on stuffs u want. but i know, and very clearly know, what u talk about. here in india, its a whole bloody science, which only focuses on how to get THY by using SEX. full to SEX only.
practising it starts with a FUCK of course. first time, you release in her ( or above her. he he. ) but slowly, try to hold back, your orgasm. slowly u will be in a stage, where you are fucking, but still not releasing. prolong this way, as much as u can. good for your gf of course. ( i m sorry, i dont have a female look out for this matter ).
the point comes in here. at one point, u have to, or will realise for sure — how as of, releasing above of my genitals, rather then releasing below. this weired thought has to come and will come.
slowly you try to do sex where u concentrate on releasing an invisible type of sperms ( energy force ) – above your genitals – somewhere above the normal place of ejaculation.
from here starts the great science of TANTRIC sex. not otherwise, like all those UK US tantric sex parlours. he he. those all are just the den of more intelligent and more spiritual sex for money players. in short hookers. sry to say that word well.
if is in these stages of UPPER point ejaculations, that the REAL ENERGY .. shows off.
imagine – withstanding the energy of whole cosmos within you. yes. it is. its not symbolic. it is getting, and withstanding the entire ENERGY of cosmos in totality. what indians say MA SHAKTI. ( it is motherly plus sexual feeling ). this all happens of course stagewise. but one thing is for sure — you witness, the COMPLETE and TOTAL energy of zillions of cosmoses, universes, this that etc.. within YOU. nothing less. thats what is called the REAL SEX. real MAITHUN as desrcibed by gurudev dutta in “TRIPUR RAHASYA”.
one who is a yogi, fucks the whole infinite universes at once, for ever, for 24*7.
why shud he smile. laugh. do spiritual courses. pray. this that. he he.
u me, fuck some one. one at a time, with our middleclass ejaculation. at that mere time of throw, do u feel to laugh or pray. he he. that is just one person feeling energy with one other person ( or with him in masturbation ). this is limited existence energy. still so marvellous.
think of that ENERGY, which is inifinitelyl infinite.
a YOGI claims for that. and can attain.
no krishna. no shiva. no jesus. no this. no that. no one can withstand ME.
this confidence is given in hinduism, buddhism, jainism and many other religions – but islam and christianity. so bad luck of most of the earthians. i m glad, by chance only, i witnessed hinduism.
neways, i m here, since i havent witnessed thsi stage :)
The idea of making love to the Universe (for the woman)…wow I would feel like my man is making love to me, I am the universe…and so is he! Note to self, try tantric, the real thing that is, not the US money making business kind! Thanks for that crazy description!
Sex is alright. I do it cause the other person wants it. Usually my hand and imagination are above and beyond what sex can bring, as far as orgasms go…
however, cuddling while your penis is in a vagina is a pretty snug position, and is nice to just chill out like that… yeah… just a warm vagina around the penis watching tv. not moving. you know, what normal people do.