So what is it ladies? I know you girls get approached alot, but how should one go about it? Or not go about it? Any advice? Because i always find myself passing up opportunities in fear of getting rejected from saying the wrong thing. And i want to stand out and go about it creatively.
So how would your girls prefer we guys went about it?
@beyond, Lol I’m the same way. I try to tone it down a lot sometimes because i find that being myself when no one else is makes me the dominant person and i feel like I am entertaining them or something. Its like, why cant everyone act equally energetic and weirdly?
From my experience at a huge college, being TRUTHFUL will make you god-like. So many douches these days…
@beyond, I guess I should have said surreal instead of weird. I always look at my surroundings and express that I am associating people and things with other people and things. like, “that dog looks like a blueberry” or “that boy reminds me of pikachu”
most people cannot respond with anything but bewilderment but it makes complete sense to me and i have met a handful of people that can get on the same wavelength. lol
@rattailbaby I’m hearing a lot of “make it simple and introduce yourself” or “use a creative pick up line” responses, but truthfully you will have a gut feeling don’t come up with a script in your head to capture her attention. Don’t think – act. Just go up and say what you want to and if you don’t know then start with a simple introduction. If she’s interested then both of your personalities will unravel as the conversation develops. Ask a question, it forces her to talk. Then share your side of the story which brings out your true side. Or if she brings up something else then comment as you would do normally with a friend you know
I’m not gonna lie, you’re pretty much guaranteed a smile and a conversation with me if you use a ridiculous pick up line.
That one line would be enough time for me to realise that you’re attractive, you can make me laugh, and you’re confident. Each which are huge bonuses.
Just a hint for the masses of suitors waiting to date me… hahaha :(
Some silly lines :
You: “you know how much a polar bear weighs?”
Her: ” err…”
You: ” enough to break the ice. Hi i am….”
You:” do you know what material this is?” ( rub your shirt.)
You: ” touch it.” ( let her feel your sleeve)
Her: ” i don’t know?”
You: “it’s boyfriend material”
@antomi, You just gave me a ‘step out of your comfort zone’ game to do with friends! :) make a list of corny pick up lines, get your friends together, go to the mall or somewhere, have your friends pick the ‘victim’ and then you have to go use it on these random girls. HA! Be good practice lol and that second pick up line you said made me laugh so hard for no reason hahah
@francina, Hahah awee, well its official, every girl thats posted on this has made it clear they love cheesy pick up lines hahah, thanks for the tip:)
@smokeup1, haha i dont see how that wouldnt work
@rattailbaby, the second one works even if the girl doesn’t like pick up lines. But don’t rely on them. It’s all about YOU having fun. Make your life super fun and every one will want to be a part of it. Avoid the dreaded “what do you do” question.
Conversation starters: Be OBSERVANT. Look at what she is doing and comment on that. Don’t try to seek approval from girls. GOOD LUCK!!!!!
@rattailbaby, above all else, I agree with @kyle that you need to know your own needs and wants–and be a “complete” person–before seeking out a partner. This is the only solid foundation upon which a potential relationship can be built. I remember hearing from a prominent therapist once that everyone’s thinking about what they’re looking for in a partner but not what qualities might make THEM attractive to the types of people they’d want to attract. While at first glance you may seem to be in the minority in this regard (in that you’re focused inward), think more about what makes you a unique, interesting and fantastic person, and ensure that you’re staying true to those qualities in what you convey to others.
That said, I also 100% agree with @luigiblue that it’s a relief if a guy is honest and genuine when approaching you. I think it’s because guys like this generally come across as confident (but not overly so); convey that they rarely employ devices of psychological manipultion (which seems to signal a lack of respect for women or chauvanism); and that they’re genuinely interested in getting to know you. Guys like this really peak my interest and “leave me thinking,” as it were, precisely because they are SO rare!!
Think about it–everything about your potential conversation with a lucky lady doesn’t have to go perfectly; as long as you’re yourself, when your conversation ends, she’ll be left thinking mostly about how you were the only guy who approached her all night and actually seemed real and genuine, not any potential flaws in your communication together.
In a separate regard, I also agree with the other female commenters who have said that women don’t know what we want. Sad, but true (I think it’s evolutionary). Yet, the best part about this is that based on past conversations with others, I think a lot of women will know whether they’re interested in pursuing a potential connection within 20-30 seconds of talking with you. Look at body language: if she’s interested, her feet and hips should be pointed toward you, her head should be tilted slightly, and eyes shouldn’t be wandering around the room. She also shouldn’t be giving you all really abbreviated responses–she should be conveying that she wants to get to know you, too.
You should also be paying attention to the subconscious signals you’re getting about whether YOU’RE interested in pursuing the woman you approached, as well. This is important because it’s directly connected with your own fulfillment (which is the overall purpose of all of this! :). Good luck, and don’t hesitate to PM me if you have any questions about this.
@cognizantelephant, Not really for stroking cocks though. It’s for a laugh. And I’m the same way in person. The main reason people have fun is when their fears are taken away. That happens with a laugh, unexpectedly and naturally making the person trust you. It’s not even about what girls want, it’s what everyone wants. :) Hm, I think you were mainly thinking about dicks.
@beyond, Imagination was given to man to compensate him for what he is not; a sense of humor to console him for what he is. – Francis Bacon
That’s how I feel about you. And maybe I was? It sounds like you were Not thinking about dicks, an even stranger consequence.