So what is it ladies? I know you girls get approached alot, but how should one go about it? Or not go about it? Any advice? Because i always find myself passing up opportunities in fear of getting rejected from saying the wrong thing. And i want to stand out and go about it creatively.
So how would your girls prefer we guys went about it?
So…yeah. “Clever” openers and pickup lines are crutches for pussies (imho).
The line I’ve have the most success with is “Hey, you!” Works every time. I don’t know why. Don’t really care. It works. Other good variations on that… “You.” [sometimes pointing at them to single them out from friends or coworkers or, at least, squaring your body towards them, opening up your posture and holding them in direct gaze(stuff u should really be doing anyway)] Also, “Whoa! Who are you?”
I swear on my life, I got a gorgeous girl’s number in less than a minute before and I opened with “Who the hell are you?” Haha! I don’t even understand how that shit works.
Anyway, the most important thing for a woman to see in you is that you are sure about her. The second most important thing is that you’re sure about yourself. That doesn’t mean you can’t be nervous or scared; it really just mean you shouldn’t try to hide those things like most people do.
If she makes you nervous, be nervous-excited, not nervous-timid. She might think it’s cute or at least be flattered by the fact that she is the reason you’re nervous.
Also, take control. Don’t say “I was wondering if maybe you might like to get together sometime?” Say, “Come to dinner with me Saturday.” There’s such a huge difference.
I will tell you which guys, (as a girl), stand out to me. The ones that talk to me for the sake of having a conversation that don’t have a very fucking obvious motive or incessant need for the correct kind of attention. Someone mentioned that simply being truthful will make you godlike… Simply talking to a woman like she’s a person you want to get to know instead of a piece of jewelry you’re appraising will do the same.
@rattailbaby, Here’s the first thing you should learn about what girls/women want:
What they say they want…
…and what they actually want…
…are COMPLETELY DIFFERENT THINGS!
Some short and simple trial&error will give you a much better answer than asking people on the internet.
Results don’t lie, people do. Simple as that.
@rattailbaby, well then dont ask girls.
look up some PUA shit. That shit is good. and thorough.
But you’ll soon find that you aren’t attracting the right girls for you, because you are not being yourself….
It’s a tough one I’m trying to crack myself.
I agree with being yourself and not overthinking it. But here’s one “formula” that might allow room for honesty and improvising:
(1) If a woman catches your eye, try to figure out what about her really caught your eye. And if it’s just her cleavage or butt or whatever, see if you can notice any other details (nails, shoes, attitude, etc.) that make her stand out from the crowd. Is she underdressed? Overdressed? Women, like men, “peacock” (subconsciously or consciously) which to some degree involves dressing to show the kind of things your into (e.g., leather? tattoos? all black? dark mascara? rasta purse? concert t-shirt? etc.)
(2) Think about what you can tell about her from those things. If she is dressed totally no-descript, no make up, that may tell you something, or maybe you can notice her physique. If she’s got a good one, she probably likes active living (playing sports, yoga, whatever).
(3) Now, you may notice something, and understand what it means, which shoes you “get her” (a form of appreciation). Alternatively, you may notice something, and not know what it means, which could evoke curiousity, which shows an interest in something about her apart from whether you can “hit that.” Either way, you can go up an say hi, and see if your brain comes up with a pick up line / conversation starter related to whatever you noticed about her.
The bonus with this approach is you might wind up training yourself to look past surface characteristics (cleavage for example) and notice things that resonate with your personality, which makes it much easier to find natural conversation starters.
And if you cannot see anything about her that resonates with you, other than, “she’s hot!” then it probably was not meant to be, unless it was meant to be nothing more than a meaningless sexual encounter. Which actually is not all bad, when both people are up for it. And in that case, if you do not notice anything about her that resonates with you, then maybe flip into “man-whore” mode and go balls to the wall with confidence because if she’s not up for it, you’ll find out really quick. And if that’s what she’s looking for, then you’ll hit it out of the park.
I guess the downside of this approach is that you will miss out on those awkward hook ups where you managed to pick up a girl you had no interest in besides getting laid, with meaningless conversation you threw out until the projected that somehow you were really interested in her on a deeper level, and then you have an awkward let down when you find out you two have nothing in common after all. Since that is maybe the majority of my hook ups, maybe I’m shooting myself in the foot with this advice.
Hell, take all this with a grain of salt because I have no game. But, then, “those who can’t do, teach.” When I said “majority of my hook ups” in the preceding paragraph, that is, like, still an embarrassingly low number.