What guy mean he said he is a butterfly?

modelrose (@modelrose) 8 years, 10 months ago

He texted me he said like this.
The truth is I cannot make you happy That is the way it is . You need to find another guy. I am not him… I am a butterfly it is not you it’s me. I only like you now as a friend… Please move on I am not good for you..You really need to move on.”
he said he want me as a little sister now. he broke up me because to other girl. he said i am a great catch and every guy was lucky to have me. he said he do not want to break up completely and would like to keep in touch with me.
but i always caught him lying and cheating me. he is with someone else now as he said. last time he said he want to meet me but His actions not match to his words. he said he will call me I texted him but he does not care to reply. I try to understand may be he do not have a credit to call so I try to call him but he never answer it, I try to understand him again and message him in facebook he able to read my message but he does not care to reply again so I email him again and ask whats going on? he just replied ” I am tired, Good night”
i feel he did not treat me good he acting cold, I miss the guy that care to me. Now he did not talk to me or text me… what i should i do? should i told him i miss the old him?he is a Us navy guy

February 6, 2013 at 4:42 am
Anonymous (84) (@) 8 years, 10 months ago ago

I think deep down you know what you should do.

You know him.. and you know yourself more than any random stranger on an internet forum.

What would @modelrose do?

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1.61803399 (247) (@drunkmonkmeth) 8 years, 10 months ago ago

@papashibshib, <– what he said @modelrose, you're smart enough to know what you should do.. you're emotions are holding you back but to think you need advice is silly.. you aren't that dumb.. no one is.. apply your own thoughts and if you really need someone to say it.

"Don't waste time on that loser or anyone who doesn't appreciate you for who you are."

i think the butterfly line is referring to him changing.

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Anonymous (254) (@) 8 years, 10 months ago ago

He obviously doesn’t see a future with you? I don’t see why you do either, if he cheats and lies and tells you to find someone better. Maybe you think you can change him? The foundation of every failed relationship in history, idealism.

Butterflies strike me as vain and fragile, which is fun, but they don’t last long. Pick yourself up and find a ladybug. Sturdy little bastards,

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Anonymous (84) (@) 8 years, 10 months ago ago

I think what he meant by the butterfly metaphor is this:

He wants the freedom to be able fly from ‘flower’ to ‘flower’, because that is his nature.
At this point in his life he cannot be tied to one flower.
To him, you are just one of those flowers.

So be a flower and blossom my friend,
you don’t need a butterfly to blossom :)

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BCavaleiro (339) (@bcavaleiro) 8 years, 10 months ago ago

When he says that he is a butterfly he probably means that he likes to be free and not stay much time with the same person.

I had a similar situation happening to me some time ago.

First you have to realise that he is not the person you knew anymore. Neither are you, people change. The person you knew and you miss doesn’t exist anymore, it may be hard but is the truth. Even if you got back together he would never be the same. This will help you a lot.

You can still be friends if you want, I believe he wants it too, but give him some space for now, you need it and he needs it.

Don’t worry about anything, it may seem like you are lost and nothing makes sense but you have to realise this is an amazing time for you to rediscover yourself and to grow. You are an amazing human being and you don’t need him or anyone to be happy. You are the only one responsible for your happiness and that is one of the most important things you can learn in life.

Talking about this to people arround you will help you too. It was one of the best things for me.

And, like @papashibshib said, what would @modelrose do?

Whenever you feel sad, be awesome instead! Just go and be awesome! :)

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BCavaleiro (339) (@bcavaleiro) 8 years, 10 months ago ago

@papashibshib, Agree with you in the butterfly metaphor

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Some_Ego-reinforcing_Label (66) (@johnkorvac) 8 years, 10 months ago ago

“I’m gonna float like a butterfly and sting like a bee” – Muhammad Ali

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Anonymous (2,833) (@) 8 years, 10 months ago ago

“he is a Us navy guy”

well…

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BCavaleiro (339) (@bcavaleiro) 8 years, 10 months ago ago

@ijesuschrist, I know what you mean, but you shouldn’t judge people like that

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angel alchemy (15) (@angedoll) 8 years, 10 months ago ago

similar thing has happened to me recently- it’s heartbreaking when you lose a guy you care about no matter how much they hurt you during the relationship! chemistry is chemistry you know?

to be honest @modelrose, the text message he sent you with the ‘its not you its me’ and butterfly metaphors and ‘you deserve better’ looks almost like every cliche in the book- did he google a break up speech and gain inspiration from his wording there? i wouldn’t be surprised.

it hurts, but i think you should try your best to move on, he wants something different to you, and it’s not committment. if you can, you need to move on from this ‘ideal’ you see of him (we’re all guilty of it, dont worry!) and be honest with yourself- your instincts should be able to tell you this isn’t right.

good luck x

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Kip Goeing (91) (@kipgoeing) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

@modelrose, I know it’s kinda late, but I think butterflies represent change/growth. He probably meant he’s not the same creature he once was. He’s no longer the person you once knew. That person doesn’t exist anymore. He gone through a metamorphosis. You can’t be caterpillars together anymore.

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Anonymous (328) (@) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

Sometimes shallow thinking rings true to shallow people. He’s gay, leave him.

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Anonymous (328) (@) 8 years, 9 months ago ago

NOT saying gay people are shallow.

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Justin Chan (0) (@Juschan45) 8 years, 4 months ago ago

Its true. I would suggest you only one thing only for the good of yours. He is not looking a future with you. As he said he is a butterfly . It really means that he can’t hang his whole life with a single one. He is a moving man. Forget him. May he realize his mistake and come to you. As we all know time changes and sure it will happen. No need to worry a lot. Be patient.

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