Hey whats up? My question is simple. Im 38 years old and feel and act like im 90 ( so my wife says) she is the same age. How to get the ability to have fun back? We go and do things and the fun last for about 5 minutes. It has taken its toll on my relationship and I can’t tell you how much I would like to have it back. The love of this woman is all I need to sustain me through this life. She is everything to me. The simple fact that I can’t have fun or enjoy things for any amount of time has put my marriage on thin ice.
Should i just fake it for the greater good? This is my cry for help.
You might just be stubborn and stuck inside your own head. Try faking it, and eventually it will grow on you. Or just try to remember what it was like to be a kid. Remind yourself how lucky you are to actually have this woman. your 38, sounds like you’re healthy, you’re already more privileged than millions of other people in the world. Grab life by the balls man.
You should try to figure out what’s really inhibiting your ability to have fun. There has to be something. So just experiment. Try faking it for a while. Try going into yourself and finding the problem. Therapy, meditation, magic mushrooms, etc. My personal opinion is that you’re just stuck inside your own head. Maybe you analyze things too much. Maybe your physically tired because you have a shitty job, I don’t know. But you need to let go of whatever it is, and just become a child once again.
This is great advice. Thank you for your thoughts. Never thought I’d have to go to complete strangers for help. Thats what im gonna do try to be a kid again. Hell we were kids when we fell in love and the daily grind of life has pushed us apart. To the person that daid I was fortunate for having this woman in my life. You are so rite. she is why I was put on this earth. I will stop at nothing to regain her love.
Don’t read anything. Get a little crazy. Or a lot. Sometimes it feels like the things we used to enjoy don’t give us the same excitement until we start doing those things, because imagine not doing them at all! That’s kind of what you should be doing and you know it. I’ve never been 38, but I don’t think it makes much difference.
Why not consider that the things you’re doing are just not fun? What’s fun about them if they’re not? What are those things that don’t make sense anyway? They should.