What is something that someone said to you that forever changed your mind?

 Jordan Bates (@bashfulkoala)6 years, 2 months ago

The first one that comes to mind for me is when I first met a guy named Jon in South Korea. It was my first week there, I think, and I had no idea Jon and I would go on to become the best of friends. Anyway, Jon said something to the effect of:

“I’m trying to learn how to just be. When you get down to it, I don’t think there’s anything I NEED to do or have or become or achieve. I just need to learn to be. Nothing else. Just me right here in this moment. And see that that’s okay. That there’s nothing I need beyond myself.”

I think I had heard the idea before, but somehow the way he said it, or the fact that it was a person right in front of me saying it to me, made something click, and I began to see that just to be and to experience — just to BREATHE right now — can be the only purpose one needs. I am here. I am okay. Just be. And let all else be. And everything is okay.

June 30, 2015 at 6:51 pm
skylerpants (17) (@skylerpants) 6 years, 2 months ago ago

you are where your attention is, makes plenty of sense :) 

upon graduating and being totally confused, my mum said “throw your hat over the fence, and then figure out how to get it”. To this day, i still find that statement applicable to just about every situation i find myself in. 

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Jordan Bates (4,684)A (@bashfulkoala) 6 years, 2 months ago ago

interesting, kind of a riddle. thanks for sharing. :)

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Liz (8) (@antenna) 6 years, 2 months ago ago

“Those who hurt you are in pain”. I had trouble with the concept of forgiveness.

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Jordan Bates (4,684)A (@bashfulkoala) 6 years, 2 months ago ago

excellent. thank you.

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Di (239) (@dida) 6 years, 2 months ago ago

indeed.

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Anonymous (0) (@) 6 years, 2 months ago ago

My first semester of university I met a stranger named Tyler (by chance) at 1am as I was walking home from work, barefoot.  Tyler waved me down with a smile, and asked why I was carrying my shoes.  “I just don’t like wearing shoes as much”, I said, and the short story is he took his off, I turned around with him, and we walked and talked for hours around town and campus (I think I got home after 6am).  We started casual, but soon we were swapping life stories, and his surprised me.  Without going into too much detail, he spoke about all this ‘crazy nonsense’ to do with psychedelics and spirit molecules, though I found it fascinating nonetheless, and was I amazed by his story of transformation from selfish arrogance to generosity and kindness (with lsd as the catalyst).  He began to look up to the forgiving nature of the kid he bullied in highschool, decided to live his life to repay debts that no one else would have even considered, to serve the people he loved (whether or not they accepted him), and more.  The gist is, that summer morning I met the most amazingly aware and generous person I’ve yet to meet, and he utterly changed my worldview.  He introduced me to the concept of psychedelics as something other than immoral or harmful, and showed me how self centered I really was (and am).  Though I didn’t change overnight, I’m certainly a very different person now than I was then, and I would credit the start of my growth to him  Sorry for the long story :)

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Jordan Bates (4,684)A (@bashfulkoala) 6 years, 2 months ago ago

beautiful, beautiful story. thank you so much for sharing it. <3

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Colorfullyvegan (11) (@Colorfullyvegan) 6 years, 2 months ago ago

After a sequence of unrequited-love stories a friend said  “what’s for you, will not pass you by”. Thereafter life seems like it is unfolding just the way it should.  And people come and go at all the right times. 

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Jordan Bates (4,684)A (@bashfulkoala) 6 years, 2 months ago ago

ahhh, that one hit me. thank you so much. ^_^

reminds me of the Zen proverb:

“No snowflake ever falls in the wrong place.” 

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rhltn (1) (@Roxhilton) 6 years, 2 months ago ago

You’re not a victim – you’re a VOLUNTEER. 

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Jordan Bates (4,684)A (@bashfulkoala) 6 years, 2 months ago ago

interesting. care to add an interpretation? ^_^

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Anonymous (0) (@) 6 years, 2 months ago ago

Perhaps it means that while since people play victim or think they’re helpless, in reality they are responsible in one way or another… You have the power to change your life if you choose to, sort of thing… (maybe?)

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Jordan Bates (4,684)A (@bashfulkoala) 6 years, 2 months ago ago

good thoughts. my interpretation was that many people think of themselves as a victim of the system, claiming our society traps them. but in fact, there is always a choice. we are volunteering to work whatever job we’re working or live whatever life we’re living, and anyone CAN, in theory, walk away from anything at any moment (unless you’re locked up or a slave or something).

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Jared (7) (@mind.my.mind) 6 years, 2 months ago ago

I was in sixth grade and I received a Valentine’s Day card from a gal I barely knew and in the card she said “I love you like a brother.” It was the first time someone reached out to me and accepted me unconditionally. From then on my entire outlook on life changed for the better. I started using manners, became polite, as well as spiritually minded and overall just a nice and sincere person. Not that I wasn’t before but I was just not in touch with that. Strange thing was several months later, she disappeared and I had not heard from her and I thought to myself that she must be an angel even though I am not religious. Some almost fifteen years later I found her on myspace but we did not really connect and she disappeared again. Though since sixth grade, she had forever changed me as a person.

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LBoogie (10) (@LBoogie) 6 years, 2 months ago ago

I don’t remember the exact words or where I read them but basically it was stated that your mind can either imprison you or liberate you, the choice is yours to make. I lean on that whenever I feel myself “squirreling out”, if you will.

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gnm (41) (@gnmoore) 6 years, 2 months ago ago

“Once you get to know somebody, it’s impossible not to love them.”

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introvert1 (5) (@DebbieM.) 6 years, 2 months ago ago

In my sr. year of high school, one teacher said, “Question everything you’ve ever been taught…” especially as it pertains to religion. 

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Shyam (1) (@Shyam) 6 years, 2 months ago ago

When I was a kid I used to live in a school(not really a school but like a dorm or something like that) and I was so much loseer than I am now.I used to get bullied by others because  of my own doing and I  couldnt study cuz I was lazy and I just couldnt.

there was  senior classmate, I mean I was in 3th and he was  in 8th ,who was really smart and wise.He had a talk with me for 1 hour and he told something really wise ,”a coin has two sides and it will be two no matter how many times you cut it”.I cant explain it right now ,it really had a meaning and to tell the truth I changed for good,I had really changed .I started getting along with people and had  good grades.

After years ,I am in tenth and I am exactly same me when I was in 3rd grade.It’s funny and sad at the same time.

another is ,my uncle said, “easy track will lead you to wrong way and hard track will lead you to right way in life”

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peaceworks (10) (@peaceworks) 6 years, 2 months ago ago

“You screwed up. Don’t take it so hard. If I haven’t done the same myself sometime or another, it’s only because I didn’t think of it, or I didn’t have time.” When I was much younger, a man I respected a great deal uttered those words to me as my years of destructive living were drawing to a close. It is one of the most freeing and transformative moments I remember of the 60 years I’ve lived.

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lastunicorn (45) (@lastunicorn) 6 years, 2 months ago ago

I was in college, ranting to my friend about how I just wanted to let everyone play. My friend told me “Not everyone wants to play.” I realized that not everybody wants the same things I want, and I should trust people to know what they want, instead of seeing myself as the hero out to save them from unfortunate lives that perhaps only I saw as unfortunate. It made me realize that maybe I was projecting my own desires onto others and parading that as a desire to help. But who was I? What did I want? He helped me become more aware of how my own perspective was involved in everything. He helped me become more honest with myself. Although we went through complicated things and I’m sad that I can’t talk to him right now, he was the first human being to say things that I listened to, the first human being to make me realize maybe I wasn’t as wise as I thought, and the first human being I voluntarily came to love. 

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Alok (19) (@Alok-Tiwari) 6 years, 2 months ago ago

Unfortunately, you realize soon enough that the seemingly simple task, “to be”, is actually quite a challenging one :) 

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Emily Price (5) (@[email protected]) 6 years, 2 months ago ago

Thoughts. Become. Things. 

Basically if anyone has seen the documentary “the secret” the idea is that the universe works based on certain laws(they are laws of physics) and the most important one is the law of attraction. The easiest way to put that is you’re worrying about your debt day in and day out and then wondering why that’s what life is handing you; Because that’s the reality you have chosen. Manipulate your thoughts, change them, to get the outcome you want. Think about what you want and it will come to you. Just try it and you will see how much your life changes.

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Jordan Lejuwaan (23,445)A (@jordan) 6 years, 2 months ago ago

My father told me over and over that if something annoys me, it’s something that I hate about myself. Took me a few years to understand it, but now it’s everything :) 

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Roberto Gejman (4) (@Roberto-Gejman) 5 years, 10 months ago ago

Soooo true

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Bigs (14) (@Bigs) 6 years, 2 months ago ago

I’d have to quote the entire book “The Magic of Thinking Big”…

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nlls (4) (@nlls1) 6 years, 2 months ago ago

Well it was not something i heard, it was something i didn’t hear.I was caring too much about a person in my life and my thoughts were all about that person but then he just cut off the communication with me without saying anything.There, i realized an any unspoken word is much more stronger than a spoken word. And i forced myself to learn to give the right value to the right person. I started to read philosophy books to manage my feelings&thoughts. Self improvement…

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JuicyClaws (6) (@JuicyClaws) 5 years, 10 months ago ago

Wow it’s amazing, I’m going through the same thing right now, it’s a freeing feeling! He and I don’t speak much, but I will always have love for him and respect him for not saying  what I wanted to hear. 

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Shady Giorgio (30) (@giorgioknolege) 6 years, 2 months ago ago

Mine would have to be a quote from one of my favorite movies and it says ” Our biggest fear is not that we are inadequate, our biggest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure”. :)

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