What is something that someone said to you that forever changed your mind?

 Jordan Bates (@bashfulkoala)6 years, 2 months ago

The first one that comes to mind for me is when I first met a guy named Jon in South Korea. It was my first week there, I think, and I had no idea Jon and I would go on to become the best of friends. Anyway, Jon said something to the effect of:

“I’m trying to learn how to just be. When you get down to it, I don’t think there’s anything I NEED to do or have or become or achieve. I just need to learn to be. Nothing else. Just me right here in this moment. And see that that’s okay. That there’s nothing I need beyond myself.”

I think I had heard the idea before, but somehow the way he said it, or the fact that it was a person right in front of me saying it to me, made something click, and I began to see that just to be and to experience — just to BREATHE right now — can be the only purpose one needs. I am here. I am okay. Just be. And let all else be. And everything is okay.

June 30, 2015 at 6:51 pm
Geetanjali (2) (@Geetanjali) 6 years, 1 month ago ago

“You are not a TV so the remote control to your mood cannot be in someone else’s hands”
I was very young when someone said this to me and I always repeat it to myself when people do things to ruin my mood.

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JonH (1,139)C (@IJesusChrist) 6 years, 1 month ago ago

Many, many of them don’t really make any sense out of context, but they echo in my head.

My dad says a lot “I’d rather be pulling my hair out than twiddling my thumbs.”

My mom told me a quote “You owe it to the world as an artist to experience everything.”

As someone else said in here “People who hurt you are in pain themselves.” – that was an explosion of understanding.

There was a meditation guy that came into my nutrition class once. He was talking about how it took him 6 months for meditation to have any effect on how he approached life. When it finally hit him, he was stuck in traffic, and was going to be 30 minutes late to his class (he was a teacher). Immediately he started to feel anxious and worried “Oh no, what will the kids do? Will i get reprimanded? WIll I get fired? Who will yell at me? Will everything be ok?”

Then his meditation had kicked in, and suddenly he felt ok. “What can go wrong?” And in that moment, I realized what he meant. All these small things that bog our brain down, that make every action we take or every imperfection explode into something that occupies our thoughts, killing our motivation – we don’t need that. Everything is always going to be fine. If I get fired, so what? I’ll find a new job. If I get yelled at, so what? I’ll just act accordingly to how I feel – everything will be ok.

There are so many more. So many things! So many tidbits people said, that by themselves aren’t really meaningful, but the tone, the posture, the depth to how they said these things, they change you.

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Ellie (1,363)M (@tangledupinplaid21) 6 years, 1 month ago ago

Clouds. 

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JonH (1,139)C (@IJesusChrist) 6 years, 1 month ago ago

:D

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Anonymous (3) (@) 6 years, 1 month ago ago

My boyfriend’s mom and sisters hated me for being an Atheist. His sister even told him that she will never be happy knowing I am his girlfriend. It hurts, actually. 

But then I realize that it is not my fault if people don’t like me, their judgments about me does not define me, their judgments about me actually defines them.  You don’t go on proving yourself to people who already have prejudice about you. Just be you. 

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JonH (1,139)C (@IJesusChrist) 6 years, 1 month ago ago

How can you be atheist, though, really? Is that not any more arrogant and ignorant than a devote christian? We know nothing!

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Anonymous (3) (@) 6 years, 1 month ago ago

Yes we know nothing, you should keep telling that to yourself :)

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Ellie (1,363)M (@tangledupinplaid21) 6 years, 1 month ago ago

I worked with this older lady that liked to talk a lot regardless of whether I was reading a book or had headphones in or whether I was replying to anything she said. 95% of what came out of her mouth was mindless babble, but she had a few gems. One of them inspired me to start being health conscious with my eating habits: “You should make sure you eat your vegetables, if you don’t you will really feel it when you get to be my age.”

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Raghavy (2) (@Raghavy-Mangaleswaran) 5 years, 11 months ago ago

Dr wayne Dyer said you attract what you ARE. If you want love … GIVE love. If you want kindness .. GIVE kindness to all those around. This is one of the highest forms of LOA. :)

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Ommatech (13) (@Ommatech) 5 years, 10 months ago ago

“You don’t have to help the whole world at once to make a difference in someone’s life right now.”

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Peter (116) (@Gismo) 5 years, 10 months ago ago

Roughly translated – “By being your imperfect self, you enable those around you to be so too” – as I remember it was my mum while talking about my “imperfect” brother whose energy I had trouble being around.. changed my perspective on him, alot of other people, as well as on myself and how restraining oneself in order to try and be “wellbehaved” isn’t nessesarily the best way.. 

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Connor Williamson (18) (@Conn) 5 years, 10 months ago ago

“Forever you will have people, friends, even best friends who will filter in and out of your life. Some may be around for a short period of time while others for longer. Never resent or regret those relationships, take the good memories and always cherish them. But also take the negative ones and learn.” -Dad 

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Puke Lava (1) (@Puke-Lava) 5 years, 10 months ago ago

I heard alot of quotes from alot of people, but the one that got to me was in a discussion with my beloved girlfriend, I was just cursing at how boring the world is etc, and she told me “You should be thankful for what you got.” 

It sounds cheesy but I swear that the meaning in it is Really deep and Powerful.

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Dfoo (5) (@Dfoo) 5 years, 10 months ago ago

A conversation that shook my Christian beliefs:

Several years ago, I was discussing Christianity with a friend of mine. Particularly Jesus being the only way to heaven. 

He said “If God sends me to hell because I had doubts about a book.. then that’s bullshit”

Can’t really tell you why it hit me so hard. My faith was pretty solid before that. I think what really shook me up was the fact that I agreed with him. He was (and is) a really good dude. He does everything he can to help people. And the thought of him suffering for eternity for “having doubts about a book” really upset me. 

My beliefs have never been the same. 

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PadmaShae (2) (@PadmaShae) 5 years, 10 months ago ago

“Stop seeing yourself as a body with a soul, and start seeing yourself as a soul in a body”

When I was told this it completely changed my perspective of myself. I started to see my body as just this separate entity that I was temporarily living in. My view of death changed, I became okay with the fact that my body would decompose into the earth, because this body isn’t ME and my soul just wouldn’t live there anymore. It would just move on. But most importantly this taught me self love, I became so grateful to have a body to live in. I started to hug myself and I cried and apologized to my body for all the mean things I’ve said to it. I began to take care of my body because its only purpose of existence is to take care of me.

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PadmaShae (2) (@PadmaShae) 5 years, 10 months ago ago

“Stop seeing yourself as a body with a soul, and start seeing yourself as a soul in a body”

When I was told this it completely changed my perspective of myself. I started to see my body as just this separate entity that I was temporarily living in. My view of death changed, I became okay with the fact that my body would decompose into the earth, because this body isn’t ME and my soul just wouldn’t live there anymore. It would just move on. But most importantly this taught me self love, I became so grateful to have a body to live in. I started to hug myself and I cried and apologized to my body for all the mean things I’ve said to it. I began to take care of my body because its only purpose of existence is to take care of me.

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Anjelica (101) (@Anjelica) 5 years, 10 months ago ago

“You don’t have to honor your parents by repeating their unhealthy patterns”

On the paranoia of inheriting genetic diseases. A man was assuming he would hve a heart attack like his father regardless of his habits. We subconsciously feel the need to respect our bloodline by continuing disease. 

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Zarreth S. (1) (@zshep) 5 years, 10 months ago ago

“Nothing silhouettes till the lights come on.”

Via the well-penned lyrics of Colony House, not too sure if they actually came up with the phrase.

To me it’s the cheekier, more light-hearted way of saying  that we should all take it easy, and that in hindsight, this will all make sense and whatever shadows (doubts) cast may be different once things come to light.

Another one from a favoured TV series, “If the only thing keeping a person decent is the expectation of divine reward, then brother, that person is a piece of shit; and I’d like to get as many of them out in the open as possible.”

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Zarreth S. (1) (@zshep) 5 years, 10 months ago ago

Also wanted to say thanks to Anjelica for the quote, no idea how my reply ended up under your thread (I’m sorry), those words hit me harder than they should because instead of genetic, I think I’m repeating the same mistakes my father’s been making in terms of anger management.

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Anjelica (101) (@Anjelica) 5 years, 10 months ago ago

the man who said it was speaking specifically of not holding in his anger bc he believed it was the reason his dad had heart disease in his early 40s. 

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I Am RIa (2) (@MariaAbramowitz) 5 years, 10 months ago ago

I think this change my whole view of life..:

Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much, and whoever is dishonest with very little will also be dishonest with much. 

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akimbrough (14) (@akimbrough7) 5 years, 10 months ago ago

If you’re not seeking more knowledge, you’re failing yourself

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SpaceGoat (1) (@RickyRick) 5 years, 10 months ago ago

When I was told

“Thats You!??”

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Mike Wuest (510) (@mikeyw829) 5 years, 10 months ago ago

Realizing what that guy told you is paradigm shifting.  Especially in a society that believes that circumstances need to be a certain way in order to be happy.  That was basically the realization that was most profound for me as well.  It wasn’t necessarily stated by a single individual to me. I’ve heard it many times, but like you, it eventually just clicked for me.

I was listening to Bentinho Massaro on youtube, and he said something along the lines of:

Your state of consciousness is not dependent on circumstances.  Happiness, well-being, and health are a choice.  Positive circumstances and life changes are a result of being and feeling how you want to be and feel regardless of how things appear.  Circumstances can’t make you feel a certain way, only how you choose to interpret them can.  You can choose how you perceive your present moment, independent of the form that the present moment takes.  You don’t need things to be a certain way in order to be happy, but once you learn to be independently happy, your circumstances tend to change.  

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Mike Wuest (510) (@mikeyw829) 5 years, 10 months ago ago

Also, that you don’t have to view your life as a problem and then use will-power, struggle and effort to change yourself.  If you have aspects of yourself that you’d like to change, all you have to do is focus your thoughts in a positive direction, instead of viewing it as a problem that must be overcome.  

I don’t have to judge behaviors as “bad” in order to produce change.  I don’t have to engage in self-denial in order to change.  Addictions fall away if you don’t judge yourself for them.  If you fully engage in your addictive behavior patterns and do exactly what it is that you’d like to do and then fully enjoy what there is to enjoy about that action or behavior- and don’t fall into the trap of feeling guilty about them- they start to disappear. No effort involved.  Just a shift in mindset.  

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Di (239) (@dida) 6 years, 2 months ago ago

indeed.

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Roberto Gejman (4) (@Roberto-Gejman) 5 years, 10 months ago ago

Soooo true

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JuicyClaws (6) (@JuicyClaws) 5 years, 10 months ago ago

Wow it’s amazing, I’m going through the same thing right now, it’s a freeing feeling! He and I don’t speak much, but I will always have love for him and respect him for not saying  what I wanted to hear. 

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