What is the biggest challenge you’ve ever had to overcome?

Jon Brooks (@JonBrooks) 6 years, 1 month ago

To celebrate the launch of 30 Challenges to Enlightenment I thought I’d make this discussion challenge related. 

I was just wondering what challenges you have had to overcome on your journey to living a High Existence.

For me, the biggest challenge I had to overcome was wearing braces for almost five years in my early twenties. It wasn’t a challenge in a conventional sense, i.e., climbing Everest, winning a competition, doing a hundred crunches, etc.

It was a test of patience — waiting… waiting… waiting.

I was originally meant to wear braces for two years, but the end date kept moving further away. I felt like I was in a kind of mentally constructed prison. Unable to outhink the predicament that I was a “work-in-progress,” waiting to be fixed, and as a result, always feeling less than.

When I look back over those years, they are the best thing that I’ve ever had to endure. Right now I’m sitting in an office in the center of Amsterdam with Martijn Schrip and Jordan Bates, my co-workers at HighExistence, sitting right across from me. Without my patience and optimism being tested as it was, I wouldn’t have taken up the spiritual path, wouldn’t have read the same books, and wouldn’t have sought the same emotional outlets.

Amor Fati — love your fate. 

What is the biggest challenge you’ve ever had to overcome?

July 1, 2016 at 12:13 pm
DaddyFatSac (0) (@daddyfatsac) 6 years ago ago

everyday’s a challenge and still have yet to overcome it. lol.

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flowerbomb (2) (@twiiwii) 5 years, 12 months ago ago

During childhood I was physically and mentally abused. No one knew of the abuse because it was well hidden. I am now 20 years old and I left home a year ago, right after I graduated from high school, with my 16 years old little sister. Since my little sister was, and still is, under 18 years we contacted the child protective services, but they did not believe us. A feeling of hopelessness washed over me and I was deeply disappointed in the child protective services. The two of us needed protection from any sort of authority because the abusers were chasing us. The only person who knew about the abuse was my best friend; I had no intentions of telling anyone else. I hoped to leave home peacefully when I hit the age of majority and I thought not telling anyone would be the best solution. It is a complicated relationship between me and the abusers; I love them dearly at the same time as they hurt me badly. Eventually I made up my mind and turnt the abusers into the police. The period afterwards must be the biggest challenge I have ever overcome. It was a struggle every single day to keep a positive attitude towards life, counting blessings to keep myself from ending my life, and reminding myself that I can create a beautiful life for me and my little sister. Looking back I am proud of myself for telling the truth and seeking help. I am unsure how I otherwise would make peace with my past.

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Devyani Khemka (0) (@Devyani-Khemka) 5 years, 12 months ago ago

The biggest challenge i had to overcome was leaving behind my memories with my father .

I lost him in February 2015. He decided all by himself to end his life. It took me a lot to accept the fact that he committed suicide and the reason is still not known to me . At times I am filled with the feeling of regret for not being able to stop him and on the other hand my mind knows that it was noṭ in my control .

It’s a cyclone of mixed emotions in my head .So I think this is the biggest challenge through which I m still looking my way out !! 

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JackAz (1) (@jackaz) 5 years, 11 months ago ago

“When you are home, you mess up my schedule.”

My wife was irritated with me because I was home and it screwed up her routine. 

We’d been married for 18 years, and I had worked my ass off to make a good life for her and our children. My new job had me away from home 4 days a week while I brought home the biggest paychecks I’d ever had. She had a new home in a beautiful neighborhood surrounded by gorgeous scenery and wealthy neighbors. She didn’t have to work. She spent her days shopping and riding horses at “the barn.” 

And I was really harshing her vibe. 

After 18 years, she finally had the life she wanted and I was utterly miserable. 

It took another 7 years for the marriage to officially end, and then the pain really began. The only thing I truly cared about was my children. As far as I was concerned, she could have all the stuff and all the money. I just wanted my children in my life. And she knew it. So she lied to them about me and wrecked the relationships. My youngest daughter was 15, and I was kept from her life for her entire high school.

It took years for my children to begin to understand what a nightmare marriage I was part of. They have all come back to me, but it was brutal. 

I had to completely re-invent myself. My self-image was entirely wrapped up in being a father, and in just a few days, it was ripped away from me. I was adrift and almost without any sense of purpose or meaning in my life. The first year apart from my family is a blur. The pain was indescribable. And then, slowly, day by day, I began to rebuild my life, to become the person I wanted to be regardless of what anyone else said or did or thought.

Today, my two boys are two of my best friends in the world. My girls and I talk all the time. The years I lost cannot be restored, but I have regained the four people I cherish the most in the world, and I know much more about who I am and who I want to be.

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flowerbomb (2) (@twiiwii) 5 years, 11 months ago ago

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skeyeball (2) (@skeyeball) 5 years, 11 months ago ago

Manic-depressive disorder. It started during a summer break, just following my high school graduation in 2010. The point it took over is still a blur, and still something I come back to in an effort to understand. All I knew was what I felt: my entire universe and everything I had come to understand about it was obliterated in the course of a few months. My hopes of attending university in San Francisco were postponed, my relationships with my loved ones, with myself, and my environment turned into something like a bizarro word, and I experienced my first stay in a psychiatric hospital. 

It has been quite an adventure. Six years later, I have battled with, run from, and ultimately learned to hug the shit out of my dragons. Im currently working on my psych degree with the goal using my experience as guidance to those suffering in their own.

Lately I’ve been realizing how much of a blessing recieving this so called “illness” is. Looking back, I’m not quite sure if I would be on the journey I am on now if I hadn’t. And let me tell you: it’s one badass ride.

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Mārtiņš Rozenbergs (0) (@Martins-Rozenbergs) 5 years, 11 months ago ago

I still can’t grasp what is my challenge that would boost me. For a while I believe I have the IMPOSTER syndrome that keeps me from enjoying my daily activities. I feel like sitting in the back seat of my head and the person (me) is driving through the day. I have big goals but he (me) just doesn’t want to engage in achieving them. I want to be happy and not socially awkward.

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Mārtiņš Rozenbergs (0) (@Martins-Rozenbergs) 5 years, 11 months ago ago

I have not found the challenge that would boost me. For a while I believe I have IMPOSTER syndrome. I am just sitting at the back seat of my head and the person (me) is driving me through the day and I am watching the movie. I want to take the front seat again.

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Tom Carson (0) (@TomCarson) 5 years, 11 months ago ago

My biggest challenge faced me very recently.

I’m a musician / producer, it’s everything for me, it’s all I want to do and it’s all I focus on.

Im in the process of learning my craft and whilst it’s rewarding when things go well and when you figure out how to make something work or create something that resonates with you……it can be incredibly frustrating and somewhat crippling.  

Perhaps you yourself are going through this or something similar.

Its the bitter lesson of patience and the realisation that there is no such thing as perfection. 

It’s natural to want to strive to be better and when you care about something so much, you naturally want it to be the best it can be. 

The love for my craft and the community that’s embedded in it makes me want to give my all, so it’s all I focus on. 

This passion however and the strive for perfection drove me literally insane. 

I stopped going out, I stopped seeing my friends, I had no job, I was depressed. I became so isolated that my anxiety was at an all time high…..I broke down. 

While my music was making progress, the rest of my life was crumbling. 

It seemed as though I had no way out, it was so confusing. How can doing something you love…MAKE YOU SO FUCKING SAD!? 

It was bleak, really dark.

Things got so bad that the only thing I could do was to rebuild, it was my only choice, and this was my biggest challenge! 

I started small just by getting out the house. The anxiety got so bad that even this was a challenge. Everything was so stimulating and frankly overwhelming. Yet the more I got out the less overwhelming it became. It’s building brick by brick where you can really understand who you are and what it takes to become who you want to become. YOU ARE THE ARCHITECT of your destiny. 

I’m not out of the woods yet though it’s still a daily struggle and it’s not a linear process. But it is getting better! 

I’ve got a job, great people around me who are passionate about life which has resulted in my music and all parts of my life progressing. I feel like I’m on my path.

To anybody reading this who can relate or is going through something similar. With all my heart you are capable! If you saw me at my worst you would look at me with a look of pitty and despair, haha. I was a fucking mess :)

Find the good people and support each other.

Tom :)

 

 

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Nick (0) (@Nick-Ochoa) 5 years, 11 months ago ago

The biggest challenge I am currently overcoming is staying true to myself. 

Since high school, I always wanted to do something different with my life. I was raised in a good family enviornment and I was fortunate enough to attend a 4 year university. I graduated with a degree in English and a minor in Marketing. Because of this, I am expected to start working a job I really don’t want. I feel as if my time should be more valuable than sitting behind a desk pretending to care. One of my goals is to be a performer. In high school, I fell in love with hip-hop. Many people look at me and don’t particularly see me as a rapper. 

But, I see it. I see visions of myself on stage, creating shit that no one has heard before. i want to hold onto these dreams but I feel as if I am disappointing a lot of people who thought I would settle with a 9-5 and a normal life. But to be alive is not normal. How could I be expected to lead an average life when we are’nt born that way? 

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mme96523 (0) (@mme96523) 5 years, 11 months ago ago

William . I can see what your saying… Raymond `s article is surprising, last week I bought a top of the range Acura from making $4608 this-past/month and-a little over, $10,000 this past month . with-out any question its the easiest work I’ve ever had . I began this five months/ago and almost straight away startad bringin in minimum $82 per-hr 

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mme96523 (0) (@mme96523) 5 years, 11 months ago ago

William . I can see what your saying… Raymond `s article is surprising, last week I bought a top of the range Acura from making $4608 this-past/month and-a little over, $10,000 this past month . with-out any question its the easiest work I’ve ever had . I began this five months/ago and almost straight away startad bringin in minimum $82 per-hr 
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Mark (26) (@MarcvsMaximvs) 5 years, 11 months ago ago

For me it’s the fine balance between self improvement and self hate, to put it bluntly. I think the self improvement mindset is a healthy one, but for me it can sometimes become a ”not good enough” mindset. Never being satisfied with who I am and where I stand in life. When does happiness change into complacency? When does self improvement transform into selfmutilation? This is still sometimes a problem for me.

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Samit (0) (@SamitGhosh) 5 years, 11 months ago ago

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Be.it.. (0) (@Be.it.) 5 years, 11 months ago ago

Being fooly truthfull with friends …it hurts more when you have to do it.

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Dean (4) (@danydin) 5 years, 11 months ago ago

Working on my goals while not falling for the easy-lazy path. I know what I need-want to do so I must keep concentrated on it.

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TeckoM (1) (@TeckoMind16) 5 years, 11 months ago ago

Cancer

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Billie Jean (7) (@xoxoBillieJean) 5 years, 11 months ago ago

The biggest challenge I’ve #overcome was my mental breakdown that begin in  the year 2009. Once I allowed G-d to become a friend in my life (2015) and not just a father, I found my higher existence and from this origin nothing remain the same….and thanks the heavens for change and growth… but most importantly…self-discovery. 

xoxo BJ

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Crystal Herman (1) (@CrystalE) 5 years, 11 months ago ago

PTSD

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ciliarylion (2) (@ciliatylion) 6 years ago ago

Great story fairplay to you hope you are doing well now and everafter

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Kaylib Meigan (4) (@Kaylib-Meigan) 5 years, 12 months ago ago

Thank you Lauren, your feedback means alot :) peace and stay strong on your journey 

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Aura666 (0) (@aarati7) 5 years, 12 months ago ago

sounds like you have gone through so much and i just wanted to say, I believe in you. I trust that you are a good human being who will learn and make choices that makes you happy. I hope things are going well atm x

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InfinitePlatypus (0) (@InfinitePlatypus) 5 years, 11 months ago ago

hey Mods are you gonna do something about this crap?

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Almeida (304) (@xetado) 5 years, 11 months ago ago

I strongly relate to you, man. Thank you so much for this story, it really touched me.

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xnj12511 (0) (@xnj12511) 5 years, 11 months ago ago

my Aunty Elise just got an awesome metallic Mazda CX-7 SUV just by part time work from a compute
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