I’ve been going around to a couple of my friends and asking them this question, looking for a little bit of insight on human experience and how everyone feels so differently. What makes you cry? such a vulnerable question.
it definitely is a vulnerable question. Honestly, I haven’t cried in years and this is true. The last time I cried (emotionally) was when I was 14 maybe and I haven’t cried since the past 9 years. I have cried a bit when I was in pain after a surgery but that’s not crying.
I haven’t been through an emotional phase in life that made me want to cry in a while. I feel I should try it though, because people say you feel better when you cry. Is that actually true though? @lanceratheart,
This is a really sensitive & like you said vulnerable topic. For me it usually isnt out of sadness, but more like when I feel like being alone, I go off somewhere and listen to beautiful music. It makes me think & relax. That seems to draw out the tears because the deepest relaxation lets out all of that emotion thats been built up. And I can tell you it feels so rejuvenating. @lanceratheart,
@lanceratheart, Really emotional movies and that’s pretty much it. Oh and it use to be when I argued with my mother I would say some real messed up stuff and I would regret it but would be to proud or embarrassed (don’t know which one) to go and apologize. That hasn’t happened in a while so I’m stuck shedding tears to movies haha
The last couple of years I’ve had some serious bouts with depression, but I can honestly only recall crying out of joy or amazement. I cry when I’m really relaxed and lucid, thinking about the people who matter to me. I cry when I read or listen to poetry that moves me (sometimes it is music). I’m thankful for being wired the way I am, being able to surrender to positive emotion like that. It’s honest, there’s no doubting the emotions, it just washes you away and releases tension.
@lanceratheart, I hadn’t cried in a long long time until last week. It was just like a release of all of these emotions that released. Someone was very kind to me and I realized how I have always pushed people away and that just spurred a beating of my pillow and a good cry. Yeah deep moment.
As a male I suppose I rarely cry, but when I do it’s almost never because I’m sad. I usually cry actual tears only when experiencing extreme love for someone or a situation. Love through loss, love through sacrifice, love through compassion, love through forgiveness, Love for someone’s suffering. It’s hard to explain but I’m never sad, just fully alive.
Crying really releases tension and technically stabilizes you emotionally. If you’re not afraid of crying, you’ll be a one step ahead of knowing how to feel better. Unless it’s pathological. But then again, I’ve always had a voice in my head telling me “It’s ok, whatever you feel. You’re the one feeling it, idiot.”
Sources: Ronnie James Dio. “The magic was stronger than the heart.” He made me shed a tear 5 minutes ago.
@anjelica, You know, it is “studied” that females cry a lot more than males and the post above mine is basically what social influence does. Not fucking true. And I don’t think this is a vulnerable question at all. When I was walking around the corridors in high school with my player I used to listen only to my favorite song, which is “hallelujah” and tears would fall down my eyes in public and I didn’t give a shit, because it was beautiful, relaxed me and if someone made fun of me I would know better that I shouldn’t make fun of them, because I’m better at that too and they have no idea with whom they’ll be messing with. The irony is that if I wasn’t good at humiliating people that try to humiliate me I would be afraid to cry in public. I would give a fuck about people’s opinion. I preferred to embrace myself in the song. So what the fuck is wrong with everyone?
@beyond, That’s awesome. I have almost a physiological inability to cry most of the time and then when I do it’s a fucking mania.Lol I have a rigid energetic structure, probably because I never realized I could humiliate anyone that humiliated me, never felt the urge. Just helplessness. Now I’m growing . Occasionally I can let it flow, one of the things that helps that is seeing musical theatre shows. Performance art always touches me. Not that I don’t feel bc I feel intensely, but I never seem to have time for my emotions.
@anjelica, People don’t have the balls to be vulnerable. I used to think those that are most reasonable and intelligent are worth it, but they had no idea how to move. To express themselves with completeness. That’s why those intelligent people agree that they have weaknesses and accept their cowardice to be vulnerable.
You have time for your emotions. What about those musical theater shows?
@beyond, I have a hard time releasing emotional tension, but I’ve never been afraid of honesty and exposing myself.. I think most of my emotional tension I from knowing how stubbornly closed up everyone is. Performing is like putting everyone’s inner world on display and making people own up to it by moving them so intensely.
@anjelica, Socialization is seriously overrated. The categorizations people make to separate emotions with thought is what makes the whole world population dumb. What’s funny is, that same categorization is making a lot of money.
“I think most of my emotional tension I from knowing how stubbornly closed up everyone is.”
I think it’s great you’re not afraid of exposing yourself. But what a lot of people don’t get while exposing themselves is what they impose too, and that is usually stress.
And this sums up every topic on this site. https://www.highexistence.com/topic/what-is-considered-normal/