What Stole Your "Innocence" When A Child?
I’ll begin: at the age of 11, while riding in the family car one day, I realized my mortality. That one day I would die. Before that, I just assumed that some people had bad luck and died from accidents and sickness. Too bad for them. With the realization pretty much came the end of my childhood. I went from the carefree existence of just being in the moment, to the birth of introspection, thought and self-reflection. Sucked. Come to think of it, STILL sucks!
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This sounds pretty trivial, but for me it was getting my period at age 11. I felt like a captive to adulthood, like I could never be totally careless anymore. Also when my cousin and her family moved from her old place without telling me. I spent the best summers of my life there. Suddenly that was gone. I became a melancholy soul. I haven’t been good at letting go and living in the moment, I’ve been trying to harvest memories rather than live them.
Nothing stole my innocence. When I was riding that bike down the electric post to get a glass stuck in my nose, I didn’t care. Also, I didn’t care when a friend of mine found money on the street and wanted to keep it. I was interested in playing and decided to keep my interest until I realized that when you grow older, girls use that playing interest in order to fulfill their romantic delusions. I still haven’t changed though, since I see how everyone grows up. :) Innocence? I never got myself the chance to experience innocence to even lose it, because innocence doesn’t exist, it’s something desperate people talk about when they can’t reach what they think they desire.
@ARCANUS Thank-you for your honesty and openness. Blessings on our journey towards living in the moment(which we are doing despite ourselves) :0)
@molniser Thank-you for responding, but am very curious as to impact of college if you wish to expound?
@beyond Thank-you for your reply. “Innocence”, I wasn’t sure is the proper word – maybe “carefree” would be better? But, thanx.
@staylucky Ah! AWESOME! I can actually identify with that :0)
@donfontaine Thanx for replying – do you remember any feelings from that experience and does it in anyway affect you today?
@melissaurban1991 Thanx for replying – what was up with “dumbing yourself down to fit in”?
@briannabbycks, that seems sorta cruel – sorry – but no matter how you got here, GLAD you did! Peace, Love & Light ~ ricky
@danfontaine, That’s a sucky feeling, dude. I moved school and countries when I was 13 from a good bunch of friends where we let anyone into our circle to a school and environment where everybody already had “their” groups. It was a tough transition and a big slap in the face.
@rickyferdon as you can tell, my parents were not the parents of the century lol. they told me “just be like everyone else”. by age 11/12 i was asking life questions that they had never even thought of and they didn’t know what to do with me. they told me i was “special” now i know that i am very very VERY special! but growing up i thought it was a bad thing and i was scared to death to stand out.i don’t blame my parents or regret any of it though, that was my path and i wouldn’t be able to experience the light so fully as i do now without having experienced so much dark!!!
I think you lose innocence/carefree-ness/illusions in several steps throughout life, but the earliest I can remember is when I was 5 and my parents had a messy divorce, filled with lots of blame and yelling. I realized life does not always end up how it’s ‘supposed’ to be….that people have issues and weaknesses, and not everyone can be happy. It was pretty upsetting.
At first I was sure it was the parties my separated father and mother threw individually without a care for the children in the house, my mother was always a drunken without a care, and my father a coke head, lots of inappropriate things, drugs, rude conversations and nakedness always.
But actually I didn’t understand any of it at the time, it was just a big game to me and my cousins, we didn’t actually understand what all of it was!
I lost my “innocence” when I was 12, when I was brutally raped by an older boy I though I had loved. I never knew what sex was, what drugs were or what that whole world of pain was, until he took that from me.
Sounds awful. But that’s life, and I’ve found that everyone has a different fate, whether “worse” or “better” it’s irrelevant, You learn, live and grow.
But we all grow up in someway-sometime, just gotta keep the child within :)
It is said that there are time when children know nothing what endanger them, etc. There is a time when they reach to understand that this person is beautiful while that is not. Well the exact age is relative.
Innocence can refer to no evil thinking like a child who know no mistakes cause they cant differenciate which is right and wrong.
The prime state of a man is when he is adult. He can understand -if he thinks.
So my innosence lost when I began to learn that something is right and the other is wrong. But I forgot when it was…
And when I was in the collge I still dont know how to treat women -still childish untill now.
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I was always a pretty serious and thoughtful person, and exposed to a lot of travel and culture, i don’t think i was every super “innocent,” but I did become much more aware of my mortality and the gravity of my decisions when my friend died when I was 14.
@ARCANUS, I had been raised in a Christian home, school, and church, and getting my period is what made me stop believing in a “fair” or involved god. :P
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