When You feelin Down

mario (@mario82) 11 years, 1 month ago

Tell me about when you feellin down… What triggers it, what time of the day,. what gets you down ,, What Gets You Down…Lets disect this shit.. so we can understand it and erase it Now………………..get in detail we here to help each other.

March 29, 2011 at 10:42 pm
chris de vera (4) (@yogini) 11 years, 1 month ago ago

I feel down when my expectations…about life, or people, or work, or myself…are not met. =(

I feel down when I give all I could possibly give…and it is not enough, or it is discounted. =(

I feel down when the people I care so much about are hurting and I cannot do anything about it…or they refuse to be helped. =(

I feel down when I am helpless and limited by my own insecurities and/or resources. =(

These things can come up anytime…sometimes I know when, sometimes it jumps out of nowhere and surprises me…even when life is being so great to me. So, i really pay attention to those times…so I can prepare myself for it.

Sometimes I surrender to them…and let it run all over me, leaving me flat and defeated…that’s when I respond negatively to them. It sucks. And I’m not too proud of myself on those days.

But even MORE times…=) I don’t back down and i just fight them till they go away…that’s when I respond positively…

by surrounding myself with positive people,
reading inspiring books,
listening to music,
making art or taking photographs,
playing with my nephew and niece,
cooking and baking…because it calms me down and keeps me sane =),
doing yoga or meditation,
anything…that’ll help me PULL myself back UP!

=)…because in the end…

“There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so” – Shakespeare

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Kayleigh (1) (@kayleigh) 11 years, 1 month ago ago

Chris, it’s almost a blessing that i just read your post. It’s been one of those days, you know? Thanks for being the positive spin on today, I’ll definitely be spending the evening making something constructive out of myself =)
I’m taking your post and putting it in my favourite poetry/quotes book, hope you don’t mind =)

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Alex Eastman (71) (@alex) 11 years, 1 month ago ago

I feel down when I’m left out of things that I was supposed to be in or just feel left out of my little group. I feel like an outsider because I don’t relate super-well with alot of people here.
I feel down when someone is disappointed in me. Those are two major reasons.

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mario (12) (@mario82) 11 years, 1 month ago ago

Alex, i like your personality and think you are cool.
and you relate well to everybody on here. i see you on here every day. i see This place is your home,and that makes me feel comfortable here too. .

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Sheila (1) (@shebreezy) 11 years, 1 month ago ago

I’ve realized that I start to feel down when I realize I’m down, and then I just constantly think about it. I think of all of the reasons I’m upset and it just makes everything worse and I get really stressed out. Sometimes, I seem to make my problems much worse than they really are. I need to learn to get out of those funks because when i stress myself out, I’m stressed out for days and then my mood is bad for what feels like forever. Hopefully, I’ll learn to avoid that!

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mario (12) (@mario82) 11 years, 1 month ago ago

Hey Sheila, What is the most recent thing that got you feelin depressed?

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Sheila (1) (@shebreezy) 11 years, 1 month ago ago

Oh man – what hasn’t. School has stressed me out. I then find myself picking at little things and picking arguments with myself. I just make them worse in my head and I don’t really know how to control it.

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mario (12) (@mario82) 11 years, 1 month ago ago

I feel that way too alot.when we focus on a negative outcome about something we will end up with a negative result..
like a self fulfilling prophecy… sorry i dont know what to say to ya, we need like a resident phsyciatrist here.

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Sheila (1) (@shebreezy) 11 years, 1 month ago ago

Hahah I agree! I also get really hard on myself. I criticize everything about myself so much, that I just hate everything about myself. So that tends to put me down as well. =

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mario (12) (@mario82) 11 years, 1 month ago ago

Sheila, Dont hate everything about yourself. the other day when you made that beautiful thread. It lifted me up. and i still keep that up feeling with me right now,and so does everyone else who read it. think about that when you start to hate yourself,think all those people who love you for you..all of us

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Rain (23) (@rain) 11 years, 1 month ago ago

I feel down….allllllllllllllllllllllmost every day at some point, to be honest. I see all of my flaws under this huge evil magnifying glass. I’m smart enough to know better, but I haven’t been able to change it yet.
I have dreams, goals, plans and desires for my own life. Yet I have sacrificed and sacrificed for the happiness of others in my life. Because I am a giver. A nurturer. I protect, care, love, shelter and provide. I seriously cry almost every single day, even if only a few tears for myself, for a few seconds, quietly when I am alone. I try to never let the damn break, but when it does, and those floodgates open….it’s never very pretty. Healing sometimes, but not pretty.
There are a lot of factors, it’s conditional, I don’t have depression, and I’m not crazy, please don’t think that.

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mario (12) (@mario82) 11 years, 1 month ago ago

Rain, I love this song, and your name is in the title…

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Rain (23) (@rain) 11 years, 1 month ago ago

*grins* It’s an awesome song. :) Thank you!
Here is MY fave Mario song….

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mario (12) (@mario82) 11 years, 1 month ago ago

you know what i secondguesssed myself but you were right there with me

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Rain (23) (@rain) 11 years, 1 month ago ago

Never second guess yourself…. you’d be surprised what you will learn if you just follow your instincts.

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mario (12) (@mario82) 11 years, 1 month ago ago

thank you

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Rain (23) (@rain) 11 years, 1 month ago ago

:) You are more than welcome.

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mario (12) (@mario82) 11 years, 1 month ago ago

where are you from?

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Rain (23) (@rain) 11 years, 1 month ago ago

I’m from Michigan. Kiiiinda a drive from PA. :p

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Sheila (1) (@shebreezy) 11 years, 1 month ago ago

@mario I know, and I hope I made everyone feel great. I put everyone else before me. I always try to make sure everyone else is happy before I worry about myself.

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McKenzie Kane (2) (@mjkane88) 11 years, 1 month ago ago

When I was younger I tended to be kinda like a wallflower…just kept to myself and did my own thing. Once I got to senior year of high school I realized how naive and innocent that made me compared to my classmates. I unconsciously trapped myself in my own little bubble. Now I’m 18 and that wallflower side of me has faded, I’m much more enthusiastic, outgoing, and social. But I can’t help but feel that I missed out on so much all those years and that kinda makes me feel down about myself. While everyone was out partying and exploring different relationships, I was in my own little world. So now its like i’m playing catch up…I still have never had a boyfriend so when my friends talk about their experiences with sex and what not I feel like an outsider. How will I ever compare when majority of the girls have years of experience under their belt?

I also feel down when I find out people hangout without including me. I’m the type of person that always makes sure I invite people to places I’m going but the “friends” I currently have always end up doing stuff without me. That really pisses me off and I get super down about it. I take it personally! It makes me second guess myself, like am I doing something wrong? They obviously don’t like hanging out with me. It also makes me question their friendship..are they really my friend? Or are they only nice because we happen to be teammates.

*Bottom line, I get down on myself when I feel like I’m a loner and nobody appreciates spending time with me. Nobody likes being alone right? Humans need a companion…why don’t I have one?

Well I guess I have my mom…at least she loves me

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