I’ve convinced myself, for better or worse, that making music is what I want to do with my life. Music has been a passion of mine since I’ve had recognizable memories, and there’s no question that playing or listening to music is my “bliss.”
Moving to a shitty apartment, playing music (preferably with someone to jam with) and barely scraping by doesn’t sound too bad at the moment. All I’m looking for in the foreseeable future is to create the best music that I’m capable of, I’d love to share that time with someone who feels they are in a similar spot.
So this is a bit like a classified ad, any other HEthens feel this way? I’d be willing to split a city apartment or room with someone who shares my love. If you’re not intersted, please do throw in your two cents.
@josephm, while being paid to play music would be phenomenal, I’m not looking to move somewhere and just “jump into the music scene.” While I would ultimately like to have people listen to the music I create, I’m not making it with the aim to please anyone other than myself.
Hope that answered the question/concern you didn’t directly ask.
@jp907, Really glad to see this on here! I’m on the same page as you my friend. Thought maybe I’d give you a few tips from my experience living life with this mentality:
1. If you are truly following what makes you happy, regardless of income and societal expectations, you’re going to experience a very unique sense of joy in your life that only you will truly understand. Even if your path may be difficult and have its fair share of bumps along the way, those hard times will be nothing in comparison to the satisfaction you’ll feel knowing that you take control of your life and live your own way. It’s a beautiful thing.
2. There are going to be A LOT of people who disagree with what you are doing and will try to stop you or lead you astray from your choices. Just try and understand that a lot of the people who do this are not your enemies. In fact, they probably just have a genuine concern for your well being and, in their minds, they are trying to help. Everybody has a different set of values, but a lot of people in our society feel safest following what seems to be “correct” in the eyes of the majority. Renting an apartment and scraping by on music is unfortunately not considered “safe” to most people. The best thing you can do is to be respectful of their opinions, show that you have honestly considered what concerns they may have, but ultimately never stop doing what makes you happy.
3. An option to consider, but if music is truly your passion, there are ways to continue following your bliss while taking some of the financial stress away. Let me explain this one:
Like you, I am also a musician. It’s the one thing in life that always makes me feel content and whole. I want to preserve that feeling for the rest of my life. I would never want money to get mixed up in my art, nor do I allow it to. However, it’s an inescapable reality that you also need to provide to survive.
I’ve found that if you can take other facets of the music world and find a way to provide a service to people by doing what you love, that pressure of having to work to sustain your creative life financially is drastically reduced. For example, I am a musician, but I am also an audio engineer who runs a private recording company from my own home studio. I take in a couple clients a month and always make the effort to ensure that my own songwriting is kept separate from my business.
The best part of this arrangement though has to be that I absolutely love going to work everyday because not only do I work for myself, but it is directly related to my passion as well. Sure, I might have to work a couple days a week at a job I don’t necessarily like in addition to my audio engineering as there are certain business expenses that need to be covered, but that is a stipulation unique to my own situation of course. Any way you slice it though, this sure as hell beats 40+ hours a week working at Wal Mart!
I’m assuming you’re not from Canada, which is a bummer for me because I have actually been seeking a like minded individual to start collaborating with musically on a project, one that will hopefully carry over in to the long term. I’d need someone ready to give it all for a life of music and you sound pretty serious about this. I am quickly learning though that it is not an easy task finding someone who fits the description of “completely insane” let me tell you!
I wish you the best of luck in the future. Send me some material if you ever get to recording. Would love to hear it!
Do it dude. The worst thing that can happen to you is that you die, but you have an infinite amount of experience with that already prior to being born so it’s no sweat. Compared to that, how could this ever scare you!
Just go have fun and if you feel like you might be taking life way too seriously at any point just remember that the human history of Earth and all it still has to go, relative to the age of our universe, all takes place faster than the pop of a kernel of popcorn. It doesn’t make too much sense to spend your whole life obsessing over an unpopped kernel, so go do what you’d like with this instant.
@jp907, I have this with my boyfriend! We live together and each play multiple instruments and write music. We also do a lot of covers and jam together all the time. We don’t do it as a living, we both have jobs. The farthest we’ve taken it is busking downtown a couple times. If you can find someone to live with who can be a jam partner, go for it. It’s really hard to beat.
As far as being broke, I don’t see why being a musician and being broke have to be synonymous, since you said “while being paid to play music would be phenomenal, I’m not looking to move somewhere and just “jump into the music scene.””
Does this mean you’re planning to be working too?