Why cant I stick to one thing?

 JDavis (@nvrenuf95)7 years, 11 months ago

Its like all my life I’ve been going in and out of “phases”.
I would seriously find something weather it be a hobby, a trend, a TV show….. just anything that I found interesting or cool, I guess, and I would obsess about it for any amount of time, it could be a week or it could be a few years it really depended on what it was, and often Id obsess over more than one thing at a time. My friends at school never noticed at least I don’t think they did, but my Mom and my closest friends and family did and they regularly picked at me about sometimes calling me fake and saying I don’t really care about anything seriously, but this never really bothered me all that much. Because I KNEW I cared about the things I did and I DID. I mean I didn’t take everything as seriously but the things that I did take seriously I did so to the fullest, and I got to say that I learned some very interesting things that actually aided me on more than one occasion, The thing is I ALWAYS got tired of the things I did and eventually just stopped doing them all together ………….but.this isn’t the point of my post. As I got older(18 yrs. btw) I’ve gotten I guess you can say hard ….. but at the same time soft due to a lot of family problems and I find my self unmotivated, unhappy and depressed pretty much 100% of the time. And I want to get my life started because I always had high hopes for my future when I was younger, but now I don’t even think I’m going to make anything of my life because I cant decide on a life to peruse I have soooo many ideas and interests that are very diverse and i just cant decide what I truly want to do with my life. Its like I lack any motivation to do anything at all seriously anymore because im scared to settle on one thing and later on get tired of it and all my progress go to waste
Do any of you guys have an idea why my mind works this way WHY CANT I FIGURE THIS OUT??? It feels like this is killing me from the inside. I am never happy anymore and I take it. If anyone can help me with this i would be very grateful.

July 2, 2013 at 9:32 pm
BrittanyRenee (14) (@BrittanyRenee) 7 years, 11 months ago ago

I’m experiencing the same thing.
Call me delusional, but maybe its not a problem.
Maybe you’re just being human.
I thought without a doubt, that I was going to graduate college with a psychology degree, but instead I ended up experimenting with drugs, because that’s what i wanted to do.
& I don’t regret it either.
I’m off the drugs now, but I’ve learned a LOT about myself, that being, I don’t know what the fuck i want to do for the rest of my life.
Meaning, i don’t think its in our nature to just commit to one thing, and for long long periods of time.
We’re supposed to grow and expand our minds.
Experience sooooooo many different things!

My advice to you and myself is to just be patient. Know that there will come a time when you find something that you would really like to do for the long run.
It will come, but it won’t come as fast if you don’t keep on doing what you were doing in the first place: growing.

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JDavis (2) (@nvrenuf95) 7 years, 11 months ago ago

This really makes me feel better …to have someone tell me for once that im not mentally ill.
I appreciate your thoughts @brittanyrenee

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Obfuscate (126) (@HowardHolmes) 7 years, 11 months ago ago

you are trying to please your parents. Give up trying to please anyone. Give up trying to be anyone. Give up trying to be.

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RandySavageXx (16) (@RandySavageXx) 7 years, 11 months ago ago

@nvrenuf95, just think about what you would enjoy and try and stick with it, i have similar problems to yours, wanting to do a wide range of things, home problems, etc, basically right now I’m trying to quit smoking weed and taking my music career seriously and when i get a whim to do something else usually i would just stop music and move onto that, but now i let that whim pass and go back to music, i think you just need to pick something and actually focus on it for a long period, even if it doesnt turn out to be all you imagined, the lessons you learned from actually focusing on something will stay with you! just stop worrying about your parents etc, who cares, you’re only on this planet for a short time, your parents will die, you will die, your kids will die, you should do whatever the fuck you want with your time here! hope this helped a bit!

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Halo523 (0) (@Balbs23) 5 years, 1 month ago ago

I’m kind of late to the party here but when reading this I felt like I was reading about myself. It sounds like I have nearly the exact same personality as far as these phases or temporary hobbies go. I’m 24 years old and it’s been probably about 5-6 years since I realized that I had this personality and it’s taken a long time but I finally feel good about it. For the longest time I was worried about what everyone would think about how I would pick up these hobbies (or shows, or really anything that I can become obsessed with) then I would become just fully engulfed by the topic for anywhere from 1 week to years. And then there would come a point when I get bored with it an drop it. And I know it sounds kinda lame but it discouraged me everytime that I would drop a hobby. Then it came to a point when I realized, hey I enjoy bouncing between hobbies, learning about these things and then when they no longer entertain me, I move onto something else (I’m sure it has to do with my short attention span as well). But when I learned to embraced this quality I become so much more happy about my hobbies and actually enjoyed them more, knowing that I didn’t feel any pressure to stick with it if I didn’t like it. Not sure if this has made much sense to anyone other than myself but I would much rather enjoy keeping this impulsive lifestyle and enjoying it than to narrow myself down and feel restricted.

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Centaur 13 (1) (@MichaelaC) 5 years, 1 month ago ago

While I don’t completely agree with the whole diagnosis as gnosis thing we have going on now, have you ever heard of Cyclothymia?

Do look into it, don’t believe everything you read, hear, think, worry about. Many, or maybe even most of the great humans have been, or are like this. An old way of speaking it was the Artistic temperament.  

Cyclothymes are the energetic engine room of the global suprapsyche.!!

I just coined that there then!

Use your energetic enthusiasms to guide you, and build a beautiful life by hsrnessing your great inner connection to the almighty infinite.

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