Why Don't We All Fight Frantically To Find Another To Ride Through Life With?

 Optimystic (@optimystic)6 years, 7 months ago

I’m a believer in pros and cons—they line everything.

There’s much wisdom to be extracted from solitude.

There’s much joy to be had in the company of others.

There’s a lot of loneliness.

There’s a lot of excitement.

The swings on the emotional pendulum are painful and powerful.

Why would we not fight every waking second to have a companion to partake in the experiences with us?

There’s something to be said for inspiration, letting things happen organically, and not rushing into situations.

There’s something to be said for taking risks, exploring opportunities, and making something out of nothing.

A lot of us share these thoughts.

What’s keeping us from contacting each other?

October 31, 2014 at 9:35 am
Anonymous (12) (@) 6 years, 7 months ago ago

Welll it always needs a context.. people are afraid to use the context of raising children or even just a project because they are afraid of being locked into one role. To really merge with someone you have to learn how to play with each person’s several characters and moods, while your characters and moods also change, and still be a point of stability for each other. That point of groundedness and stability is a part of being that partner role, but since both people ground each other while also needing grounding… it’s really a dance. Fidelity and fun are easy if you really are committed. But it’s like a constant fight, but each day you get through sets a foundation.

So I think a big part of it is expecting someone to just be in the companion role… it’s not enough of an outlet for human creativity unless one person takes the subordinate role towards the other. I know I haven’t been clear enough but maybe it makes sense.

It’s complicated… but if you love then it’s simple to succeed with the commitment.

Yea this was explained really poorly. Oh well :D

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Alex (551) (@hollowinfinity) 6 years, 7 months ago ago

Can’t really do that until you become a defined person firstly. Its like in the celestine prophecy with energy battles. How can you really benefit another person if you are still that half circle stealing their energy? Become a full circle, then seek out your companions. That’s my plan anyways. Besides, I fucking love my company.

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Anonymous (12) (@) 6 years, 7 months ago ago

I understand this point of view but I don’t think it’s universally appropriate…I notice you can’t really steal energy if love is present because that’s enough energy. Also if you are so defined how will you grow and change with people? We are all a full circle without trying, and we just create another circle when we merge with others. But really I think different mindsets work for different times with different people.

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Alex (551) (@hollowinfinity) 6 years, 7 months ago ago

Of course you can steal energy when love is present. Love is always present whether that’s conscious or not. For example, babies steal energy from their parents all the time. It’s needed. We accept it, and we willingly give them our energy because of love. There are some people in my life right now, that I just couldn’t have any sooner in my life. We wouldn’t of clicked in the right way, we were on different paths and we could’ve missed out on a genuine friendship if we met any sooner.

I get what you’re saying though, and It’s not that I disagree, its just that I believe that higher levels of truth can only be felt on a personal level, and then shared with others. It usually takes people going into some sort of solitary confinement for them to gain the perspective on their lives which they need.

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Anonymous (12) (@) 6 years, 7 months ago ago

I disagree bc I think love without resentment is life giving and not draining. That’s what I find in my solitary confinement. There are however people who are consciously vampires who prey on peoples vulnerabilities. I think the strongest person would be able to give to them too without being drained

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Ellie (1,363)M (@tangledupinplaid21) 6 years, 7 months ago ago

Yes! I love this comment. “Frantically fighting” to find someone sounds desperate and unhealthy to me. We have to learn to love our own company if we are going to benefit another and not just use them to bring meaning to our existence.

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Ellie (1,363)M (@tangledupinplaid21) 6 years, 7 months ago ago

Some people do fight to find a companion, those people who are obsessed with finding “the one” or attracting the opposite sex. I think people who are obsessed with that are obsessed with it because they’re trying to fill a void and or live up to a societal norm.

Knowing how to let things happen organically is the healthy perspective to have, then you can take risks and explore opportunities without your well being depending on it.

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Anonymous (17) (@) 6 years, 7 months ago ago

How appropriate. You fight like a cow.

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Manimal (2,998) (@manimal) 6 years, 7 months ago ago

I hope now you’ve learned to stop picking your nose.

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Geronimo (10) (@Alan-Watthefucks) 6 years, 7 months ago ago

I agree with @hollowinfinity. I think higher sensitive/aware people feel a more expansive freedom in solitude. I also believe social norms play a limiting factor in this freedom. Solitude is a time when you are able to develop yourself without “peer pressure”

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