You have to realize that you are going to die.

Kenny (@kenny) 10 years, 3 months ago

I want to be able to put my thoughts in writing. I’ve found that there is a huge disconnect between the thoughts I actually think and how I convey it through words. (I can’t seem to get my point across through words versus what actually goes on in my head). In short I want to become a better writer so I’m going to write to get better.

Here’s an article that I just wrote.

http://blissfullyfree.com/musings/you-have-to-realize-that-someday-you-will-die/

Any feedback would be appreciated.

Thanks!

October 11, 2011 at 10:33 pm
mitch (18) (@mitch) 10 years, 3 months ago ago

I swear I’ve expressed it exactly like that before. Swear. (@ the post, not the article)
Now that article: awesome! Well-put, short, concise, truth.

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Ray Butler (1,423)M (@trek79) 10 years, 3 months ago ago

I think we all do realize but we are in denial about it. Kenny, I like the idea of turning the fear of death into a motivation for living life fully. Fear of death is a basic, instinctive, driving force that keeps us alive. I wonder if once we have reason to live and reason not to fear, do we need that fear any more?

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Daniel (7) (@meta) 10 years, 3 months ago ago

I really liked the article. Concise and to the point but with plenty of content to keep you thinking. Also, i’m really glad I saw this because i just wrote an article about the fear of death earlier today so it’s good to see someone else’s perspective.

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Kenny (5) (@kenny) 10 years, 3 months ago ago

@Ray

I wouldn’t say it’s fear that motivates the living but having a conscious understanding that it’s going to happen. Before I would take my days for granted. I always expected/felt entitled to having another day on this earth. So I would put things off, tell myself that it I will do it someday. Little things would bother me and prevent me from doing the things that I wanted to do. I would put heavy weight on other people’s opinions/judgements (even strangers) over my own when in the grand scheme of things, none of those little things truly mattered. Once I understood that I felt a sense of freedom.


@mitch
and @daniel
thanks for the feedback!

If you don’t mind, could you click the “Like” button at the bottom of the post if you enjoyed the post?

thank you so much!

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mitch (18) (@mitch) 10 years, 3 months ago ago

liked!

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Nick (0) (@nick) 10 years, 3 months ago ago

Very well written article, and really thought provoking and interesting, it honestly makes me aspire to do more with my life than most other motivational pieces I’ve read.

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Manimal (2,998) (@manimal) 10 years, 3 months ago ago

I refuse to accept the notion/belief that I will die. What’s it good for? I don’t need that negativity to get off my ass and get things done, neither does anybody else. Don’t motivate with fear, that’s just harmful. Good motivation stems from positive emotion, not from threats.

I will not adopt such a negative, limiting belief. There is no proof whatsoever that I will ever die, I’m alive now and there’s proof for that, that’s enough information. You tell people they can’t fulfill their goals without doing it out of fear of dying before doing it, you tell people they will die (this is horrible, man) and that it’s inevitable. Why do we need to hear that? What good will ever come of making people think about death and fear? I don’t want to hear that, and neither do you really.

There is no proof whatsoever that anyone in here is going to die, that’s all assumption. And quite often, what you believe about yourself turns out to be true. Be careful about what you believe, and you might just live. Who knows?

Oh, and don’t take this the wrong way. I’m not hating on your article, I’m just sharing another perspective. Peace.

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Kenny (5) (@kenny) 10 years, 3 months ago ago

@Manimal

I don’t see death as negative. It doesn’t motivate me because of fear. It allows me to shed other irrational fears. In my case, I didn’t start a business because I feared failing. I didn’t talk to the girl on the bus because I feared how she would react to me. Understanding death allows me to lose these fears because it puts things into perspective for me. It allows me to see how irrational these fears are.

As for your point on the assumption of dying. I see it from as if don’t have forever. If I lived as if I had eternity, I would find myself procrastinating things because I would tell myself I would do it tomorrow. I find that understanding that there may not be a tomorrow allows me to live fully for today.

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Dan (890) (@danfontaine) 10 years, 3 months ago ago

Idk, if I felt like I was going to live forever I think it would actually make me more productive, because I wouldn’t want to spend eternity living a sub-par existence, but death tells me that it’s okay because nothing will matter some day (sounds to me like reason for much complacency). Manimal is on to something here. There is no proof of your own death.. just search for it. It’s not there. This is how we ought to live, without it even being a concept in our head. It is the truth of reality that death is not naturally occurring. It is always either an accident or a series of accidents until the organic system just can’t maintain constant upkeep for multitudes of reasons; so there is no logic behind looking at the other people dying around you and assuming the same fate for yourself.

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Dan (890) (@danfontaine) 10 years, 3 months ago ago

When I get off work and have to go to sleep within 3 hours – I don’t feel like doing much of shittt. (I always have a ton of energy after work though)
If I have, say, 9 hours after school or work – mad ideas will be running through my mind pertaining to how to use my time to the fullest. Not that I always act on those, but that’s a separate problem completely.

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paul peden (16) (@paul2) 10 years, 3 months ago ago

In a way im not afraid to die i feel exited to die. im really curious what is next. curiosity killed the cat.. in this case the killing cures the curiosity

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Em (473) (@emily) 10 years, 3 months ago ago

@ paul, I’m super excited to find out too :) I’m not depressed, I wanna get everything I can out of this life… but I can’t wait to see what happens :)
& I’m with Manimal.. we’re not gonna ‘die’… I think the fear of death is one of the most debilitating features of our species.. yet at the same time, to keep it in mind.. can motivate you to do great things..
@ Kenny, nice article ;)

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Trisha (2) (@trishashifter) 10 years, 3 months ago ago

@ Kenny. I liked your article. I think I totally get what you mean. I think that your personal experience makes sense and i get it. Other people, the people who are ready for the same/similar awakening may have your article as a catalyst so i think it’s great that you shared it! Some people who don’t need that thought process, at least not now or maybe never, because their path of progress and growth doesn’t need that, well they aren’t going to appreciate it. But that doesn’t matter. To each their own. I hate blanket ideology. Trust me, your insights are valuable, and especially to the god that is you.

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Kaysea (14) (@kedukc) 10 years, 3 months ago ago

@Manimal, your perspective makes a world of difference to my paradigm.
This is why I love HE.

+1

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Manimal (2,998) (@manimal) 10 years, 3 months ago ago

@Kenny So you’re saying that it isn’t related to fear? Then how would it change you like that?

“Hey, I’m gonna die so maybe I should like talk to this person and start this business, because I’m so stoked that one day I’m gonna die. I mean, this awesome future death really makes me want to start this business now!”

Make sense? Didn’t think so. Now look at this.

“One day I’m gonna die, and that means maybe I wouldn’t get to do the things I want to. So I should really stop procrastinating and get this shit handled instead.”

Sound more accurate? Well duh. Motivation from fear, that’s what it is. You’re motivating yourself with “someday I might die so I should do this now” and that’s fear motivation. I’m not saying it doesn’t work or anything, but it has a whole bunch of side effects on your mind, in the long run it’s a bad choice. Kind of like how doing speed to stay awake and get things done may seem smart at first, but in the long run it will leave you fucked up.

You shouldn’t need a reason to get shit done, especially not a threatening one. You should find the motivation in the act itself. Enjoying the jorney, not projecting into the future for motivation.

I didn’t mean to derail your thread, sorry for that. Just wanted to share my perspective.

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Ellie (1,363)M (@tangledupinplaid21) 10 years, 3 months ago ago

Nice article Kenny.

I see it less like looking into the future and more like looking at life as though time doesn’t exist(which it doesn’t). It makes me feel like a brief little flicker of life in the universe which makes me want to enjoy the fuck out of my time here. No fear has to be involved necessarily.

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