I am confused about love, how can it be so easy to fall in and out of it without a second thought. Please give me advice about this because i feel lost.
People say that they love, but that is bullshit. It is addiction and that is why you only love her once shes gone. Love is the connection we share with the rest of the universe. Romantic love is when we get addicted to a certain connection, and with that comes also the fear of loosing it. Love hurts.
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@johnhart12345, well if someone doesnt meet your expectations or reciprocates the feelings you have then the love pretty much can die really soon.
for some people love stays a long time if it is not reachable or if there is no real connection in real life, you make it all more prettier in your head. like Osho said, the great lovers were never allowed to have a relationship to find out they are not matching those high expectations they have from each other.
what i came to experience is that most of the time it is illusory, and it feels great while it lasts, but apparently it can disappear or become disappointing, but i never experienced that it disappeared unless someone else came into the picture and you fall in love with someone new. i come to feel it is really different for every person how they experience a connection and how they deal with it.
It is not other people that we love, it is what we receive from them.
I think love is so confusing because it comes in many different forms- Often, we don’t recognize it at first because each time it occurs, it’s exquisitely different from previous times we have experienced it. Although it may be easy for you, it is difficult for some people to open their hearts to such vulnerability… In my opinion, the only time it’s easy to fall out of love “without a second thought” is when it wasn’t truly there in the first place.
Right now i feel broken..My heart is crumbling in my chest and all i want is for it to stop. I dont want to feel like this ever again. WHY? WHY? Whats the problem with me? Why doesnt she like me? Why doesnt she want to be with me? Ive spent every hour of my life with that girl on my mind. I dont want to do this anymore. I want to be free. Free from love, hate, saddness, and heartbroken. I dont want the life I have anymore. I wish I could start over and never feel like this again. I just want out.. The girl I love does not love me back. She does not want me. I feel like she just keeps talking to me out of pitty. Someone please help me. Ill be gone in a few months to another place wherever the military takes me. The Marines tell me where to go. I have 2 years left in and for those next 2 years I have to watch the girl I love be happy with other men and I cant fight to win her back. I had her love once..I could feel it and I know Its there. I cant look at other women and not see her. She is everywhere..what do I do?
Dude, you feelings for her are an addiction. I’ve been there. Believe me. You may not feel that way. But if they overpower you, and leave you weak, then you are simply in love. It is a part of being human. Don’t fight it. But you should understand one thing. When it is over for one person, the other person is just addicted. You need to get off your addiction. I know she might look like the sweetest thing in the world, and you probaby love her hair etc. etc.. but it’s taken you off focus. You and your life needs to be the number one focus. If you can’t focus because it hurts, just recognize that. Always know that you need to focus. Here is what will help you: It is not possible to get from her what you need to get out of life. Remember that. I will say it again. It is not possible to get from her what you need to get out of life. In the end, if you are with her, and you ignore your life’s purpose, you will hate yourself. One of your mission’s in this life is to love yourself, and to accept your purposes and to live them truthfully. You cannot do that through her. She is only a side dish. You will get sick if you use her as the main course. So get back onto your main course.