Your deepest Insecurities?

mario (@mario82) 11 years, 2 months ago

I just want to say, briefly, that I’ve been reading the posts on this and other discussions and this forum just seems gentle and friendly and everyone seems quite mature and nice. Its weird to find a message board without an element of trolls and hating and crudeness. Its like a little sanctuary on the internet. Imagine a world where everybody was like this. People would be considerably happier- and more secure :-P

As for the topic of discussion, when I first read the question my reaction was that I can’t think of any. I’m quite confident really, looks-wise, intellectually, socially. I tend to think I’m quite good at things or could learn them. I was a shy kid and wasn’t very confident but I think I just became more confident as I grew up and developed. I know I have great parents. I’ll have to give it more thought. I suppose I have one or two sexual insecurities, and maybe there are some other things. Don’t get me wrong, I have problems. I think I could give anyone here a run for their money in the problems department lol (you have to be able to laugh) but I don’t think they’re very insecurity based.


March 25, 2011 at 5:18 am
North (22) (@north) 10 years, 4 months ago ago

Losing my hair is a big one for me. It has lowered my self esteem a lot, and I feel like people think I am less of a person because of it.

Lisa (0) (@coachlisa) 10 years, 4 months ago ago

I’m afraid to speak because I think people have already decided I’m stupid. I am considered a classic beauty so this works overtime on my insecurities. Dress-up or dress down? Where’s the line between smart and beautiful and which one am I? My mouth is still, the noise in my head is deafening.

daveb (119) (@daveb) 10 years, 4 months ago ago

@northface, learn to laugh about going bald and you will become more of a person. When it comes up I say that my ever-growing bald spot (soon to connect w/my widows peak) helps me overclock my brain without overheating. I show it off when I get carded and compare it to hood scoops on cars, stuff like that. It gives other people permission to make fun of it, too.

Frederick (5) (@comanche) 10 years, 4 months ago ago

I’m quite insecure about my intelligence :P
It might sound funny, but I grew up with pretty much everyone around me considering me super intelligent,but underachieving, and I believed them.The fact is, I was underachieving, but I’m slowly realising that even when working really hard on something, I can’t perform as well as I’d like, or as much as I think I should. Pretty sad :(

I’m also insecure when talking to people, as I used to be pretty much anti-social, but its better now :D.

Anonymous (2,654) (@) 10 years, 2 months ago ago
It’s with small captions. “Liam Gallagher – Making other asshole drunken loud mouthed pricks look like nice guys since 1991”

Julian SIlveira (0) (@juliansilveira) 10 years, 2 months ago ago

Mine are social awkwardness and looks mostly.

Anthony (9) (@nocareever) 10 years, 2 months ago ago

I’ve kept up on this thread but after 130 posts I felt like I should contribute…

Not the only ones but the two biggest by far and many more stem from them:

-Fear of rejection, by girls especially but also just on a making-new-friends level. It’s almost paralyzing after a while, like self-induced isolation

-Fear of failure. I won’t start certain things or take on certain responsibilities only because I think they won’t work out. I’ll only do something if I’m almost completely sure it will work it out perfectly.

But what to do about them, or any of these insecurities? It’s interesting that some people will say they’re insecure about the way they look but they really look good or sometimes great. And other people, like me, are insecure about rejection when really, obviously not everyone is going to be as judgmental as I fear they will be! But what can be done about it… GREAT topic, the kind that really pull a community together

Lauren (86) (@laurenlouise) 10 years, 2 months ago ago

Oh goodness.

Well physically I am insecure about my skin, I’ve had trouble with it for a while, and while it’s not as bad as it used to be, I am envious of all those girls with glowing, smooth skin that never wear makeup.

When it comes to other insecurities, I am terribly insecure about interacting with guys. I am awkward. Like, “Woah, why would you ever say something like that ever?” And when I do manage to find a guy, I become terrified of abandonment. To the point that I would almost rather be alone than take the risk of someone leaving me.

I’m also so afraid that I will never meet a guy that loves as deep as I do. It’s gross how deep I can fall in love. I want someone who is just as ooey, gooey, cheesy and romantic as I am. And that just doesn’t seem to exist.

This post just made me realize how ridiculously insecure I am. Gee thanks. Lol.

Lauren (86) (@laurenlouise) 10 years, 2 months ago ago

Doubtful, but thanks. =)

pat (169) (@epath) 10 years, 2 months ago ago

My biggest insecurity is that someone will guilt trip me/bully me into revealing my deepest insecurities.

Max H (44) (@traceur) 10 years, 2 months ago ago

hahahaha pat^ we got you feeling insecure.
Mine would be being hypocritical or stumbling into a self-contradiction. I never want that to happen. And it kind of goes along with selling out to my own personal philosophies. I want to stay true, because I have willpower to do so.
I am surprised so many of you have physical insecurities, I mean im kinda insecure about my body hair, but only barely, it is there enough that I will shave it but it never causes me any worry.

Emily (2) (@focsle) 10 years, 2 months ago ago

I am insecure about how I look in a way that directly correlates with my emotions. I check the mirror often, like I’m expecting myself to drastically change from minute to minute. And I do in my eyes. When I feel sad I feel ugly. When I feel good I feel like I don’t need to look in the mirror because it doesn’t matter. Its kind of weird.
I don’t connect with most people. I feel like many relationships I have are artificial and I don’t make the effort to try to maintain them – and then blame myself. I am afraid I will be alone for my whole life without meaningful connections.
I am critical of myself and others. I put myself down regularly. I think negatively about others when I really don’t want to.

stonedragon (143) (@stonedragon21) 10 years, 2 months ago ago

this is amazing to read, that everyone is hung up about their body image and how others see them. try for that fuck it attitude.!!!! i love me, and if nobody else does then fuck em!
my insecurities are related to me being not able to pay the bills, take care of all my shit, and also fears related to the well being of my kids.
my sons who go out drinking at nite till late, live in violent cities,. why cant we all just be free from this shit!!! excessive worry mom shit. that is my problem.

Jody Hatton (88) (@xdude) 10 years, 2 months ago ago

I was always the short runt from grades 1-9, and now I’m a tall guy with turbo metabolism. According to Louise Hay, being skinny means something like “I’m not worthy of taking up more space on our planet”…

Whenever I hear my voice through someone else’s echoey phone, I’m always like “wha? My voice isn’t really that high-pitched… is it??”

When I speak I often tend to go into stories, forget what I was talking about, and rarely get to the point. The people in my life have come to accept and enjoy it but I hate it.

I recently met the most amazing woman and REALLY REALLY want her a LOT … I’m afraid my attachment will scare her away, but chilling out and being cool about it has been so difficult for me.

stonedragon (143) (@stonedragon21) 10 years, 2 months ago ago

jody according to that theory, then hugely obese people feel they have a right to take up more space on our planet.
ya take it easy with the new lady, play hard to get!
and learn to love yourself a bit more, ok?

Anonymous (0) (@) 10 years, 2 months ago ago

I wasn’t going to reply until Mario suggested I have an affinity for animal testicles….

I’m paranoid and have a habit of feeling like everything is either my fault or could have been prevented if I did something different. I’m a dull person who needs to drag himself to activities most people jump at the chance to attend. I’m afraid that I’m not creative and I’ll never find any success in my life, success being measured by happiness.

Tip of the ol’ iceburg. Can’t say I feel much better for coming out with that.

stonedragon (143) (@stonedragon21) 10 years, 2 months ago ago

man scott. what is the matter with you. look around you all the things you have to be grateful about. develope a gratitude attitude, and you will attract more positive things towards you. it is great you came out with this, but now it is time to let it go, seriously man, be happy you are alive and have a precious human life and a healthy, im imagining you are healthy, body!!!
nothing is your fault, that must be an old hangup from your family. drop that one, no one is to blame for anything, find something that sparks your interest and do it. slowly at first and then you will find a passion.!
be happy a little , ok.?

Megan Wilson (5) (@poefan2490) 10 years, 2 months ago ago

So, insecurities:
I hate my stomach and thighs because that’s where all my fat goes, but otherwise not many issues with my body. I know I’m beautiful regardless.
I’m really self-conscious about my face because of bad acne and some scaring. I try to avoid wearing make-up because even organic and mineral based ones make me break out more. Yet, without the make-up, I feel like I look revolting.
I sometimes think that I talk too much or say the wrong things, but this hasn’t bothered me nearly as much recently.
The only other insecurity I really have is thinking that I have some sort of serious mental disorder and everyone is being “nice” and just not telling me what it is. I was in the gifted and talented program all throughout school, and I know I’m fairly intelligent, but I’m always terrified that it was really just a cover and I have some sort of serious issue that I’m unaware of.
To all the girls out there: You are beautiful.
To all the guys worried about body hair or being too thin: I love thinner guys that aren’t built with a lot of muscle, and I find hair really sexy, so there ya go.

Bridget (2) (@bird212) 10 years, 2 months ago ago

I would say mine are mainly physically, my skin and body hair. My skin has gotten better but it’s still not as clear as I want…I can wear makeup and even without it’s not that bad and I’m sure I’m pretty but it sucks that it is something I still worry about. The body hair thing isn’t so bad anymore, I’m pretty over it but I do shave my legs a lot during the summer and get waxed in some places, because my hair is so dark and thick…last time I went to get waxed, the girl was making conversation and was like so are you italian? which i’m not at all but i was like damn, am i that hairy?? haha like wtf! but everyone has it.

other than that, sometimes i think people think i’m boring or awkward, but i don’t think i am so oh well. haha

t-rav (25) (@travis) 10 years, 2 months ago ago

I’m afraid I’ll work too much of my life away on a job without feeling I made a positive change on the earth. Since recently i’d say nothing else, none of it’s worth it. Still working on the job thing. And I do get nervous talking to a crowd so I guess there is some type of insecurity there.

This video is awesome and has some points to relate to insecurities.

Eric (1,819)M (@blankey) 10 years, 2 months ago ago

Being too skinny. I’m getting over it though.

Bobby (190) (@bobbylloydxd) 10 years, 2 months ago ago

I’m extremely afraid that one I will day discover that I am not intelligent enough to fulfill my ambitions. There is no reason to think so, but I’m still nervous about it. I guess I just have to do my best.
Rich people make me feel insecure. I think its because I have always had to fight for money, and it makes me feel ashamed for some reason.

Devin (17) (@scotch) 10 years, 2 months ago ago

i blame things for my woes,
i smoke so much marijuana,
i spend all my money on marijuana,
i don’t save my money wisely,
i’m scared to talk to strangers half the time,
i’m afraid of what people think of me,
i feel like i’m different sometimes,
i take short cuts,
i forget unconditional love,
i havent done this before :)

David (325) (@zeitro) 10 years, 2 months ago ago

my fear of rejection

Anonymous (2,654) (@) 10 years, 2 months ago ago

It’s always good to make fun of my deepest insecurities. If you say that you have weaknesses and strengths, it’s very possible that you’re just limiting yourself.

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